I still work with my AP. Although I am on mat leave right now so I think that is helping my husband and I with our healing process.
When I go back to work I will be working with him again. We don't work directly together, we do totally different things and don't see each other that often.
It wouldn't be financially feasible for me to quit my job right now as much as I would love to. I am looking at going back to school so that when I do go back to work, I won't have to work nearly as much and will be working towards getting away from that place. So I am looking forward to that.
But it is a difficult thing to still be working with him. My husband has told me that I eventually need to find a new job and I already told him I would.
I have gone NC with him as well. But still seeing him is bothersome.
You may have gone NC with your AP, but your spouse may not feel safe with you going to that job every day and still being able to see your AP. I know that it is hard on my husband.
Whenever I see my AP though, or the times that I have had to interact with him for work purposes, I tell my husband as soon as it happens. It makes my husband feel a little bit better and puts a tiny bit of trust back into the relationship.
So maybe whenever you have to have any kind of interaction with your AP, tell your spouse about it. Don't hold anything back.