Topic: When someone is interested in you & their name is the same as ex
Member # 29183
| Posted: 7:53 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013|
It would be weird at first, but I have a good friend with the same name as WXH and for some reason, it sounds different when I'm referring to or thinking of him.
I wouldn't write him off at first. At least get to know him a little.
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Member # 33226
| Posted: 7:58 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013|
If I accidentally call an SO by the "name" in my head for WXH, I will be apologizing for calling him an asshole motherfucker. Some people change THEIR name when they divorce; I changed his. OMG, caregiver - that is AWESOME.
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Member # 30346
| Posted: 8:49 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013|
t/j when my BFF and I were texting about ex a long time ago...her phone autocorrected "That Fuck" to "That Duck".
We now just roll with it.
Has the ducker quacked today?
What the Duck?
If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck...
Also enables me to talk in code about the ducker in front of the kids.
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Member # 36060
| Posted: 9:35 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013|
I couldn't do it. At least not yet. Waffle has a pretty common name, first and last. There's more than one column of them in the old school phone book. I rarely used his name, but the mental association would be too strong.
It did turn out that waffle has the same name (first and last) as MOW's first H.
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Member # 35229
| Posted: 10:13 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013|
If I accidentally call an SO by the "name" in my head for WXH, I will be apologizing for calling him an asshole motherfucker. Some people change THEIR name when they divorce; I changed his.
@ CG, he will always be Stretch and Skew to me. That story is quickly spreading throughout Sydney. This is how urban legends begin...
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Member # 27186
| Posted: 1:13 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013|
My ex and son have the same name. It's sort of common and doesn't bother me at all. SO name is very similar, and I've feared calling him by the ex's name since I talk with both frequently. Luckily, SO knows I'm bad with that, and I have even accidentally mixed the dog or cat's name in while hollering for a human, lol! Thankfully I have never erred their names!
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Member # 21791
| Posted: 8:43 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013|
My current SO and my XH have the same name. I think it is a fairly common name in the 50 year old crowd. Doesn't bother me at all, in fact has been helpful at certain moments!
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Member # 30803
| Posted: 10:30 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013|
My XH's name isn't a common one.
If someone was interested in me that had the same name...I'd consider it Divine Intervention and run as fast as I could in the opposite direction.
No way, Jose.
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Member # 24239
| Posted: 10:36 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013|
I know so many of you deal with asshole Xs, especially those with young children. I will have to qualify my response by saying it probably does not apply in your situtations, but for someone older like me or perhaps childless, if you were bothered by a name, I would say that you were in no way healed from your experience and not ready for dating.
I never liked the X's name but I'm pretty sure if I met an awesome guy with that name, I could handle it.
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Member # 22860
| Posted: 1:38 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013|
tj: for cmego about the duck.
my friend texted me that my ex was an asswhole.... then straight away sent me another saying that she knew it was spelt wrong but it was OK cause he was a whole ass
yup she called that one right
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Member # 36134
| Posted: 9:40 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013|
Before I met xh , the 4 or 5 guys i dated all had x's first name. I also dated them in alphabetical order.
I think I need to go a bit further in the alphabet.
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Member # 26419
| Posted: 10:22 AM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013|
Same name and birthdate would bother me. It would be really hard to get over either of those.
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Member # 10552
| Posted: 10:32 AM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013|
ex-asshat's name isn't odd but it's an "older" name and you don't see it much. (It's also XFIL's name and the oldest banana's name.)
That said, put me in the "no way" camp. Maybe it's not fair to all the other nice ones out there but I associate way too much heartache with that name. I couldn't go there.
A friend of mine has an H with the same name as her XH. We've always referred to them as ET ("Evil Todd") and NT ("New Todd").
[This message edited by wildbananas at 10:34 AM, July 28th (Sunday)]
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Member # 26071
| Posted: 3:41 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013|
My best friend married a guy with the same name as her Dad. THAT would bug me.
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Member # 5372
| Posted: 9:00 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013|
One of my best friends married two Mikes. (She divorced them both.) She starts her stories "When i was married to Mike #2..."
My ex is also Mike/Michael. Through the seventies and eighties, the name was #1 in popularity. I have managed to avoid dating another one, somehow. I have dated the most Marks since my divorce, I guess, though not all of them turned into relationships.
I guess I wouldn't rule out dating another Mike if i met one who were any good, but it hasn't happened yet, so that's good, i guess.
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