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User Topic: Betrayed Men Part 12
DecadeCentrifuge
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Blood Bowl is like life. Sometimes you are up by 2 and it's second half and you are receiving, half their players are dead, crippled or stunned from repeated boots to the face and the fans piled on to the ref so he can't call fouls on you...

I dig. Sometimes I'll play a shitty game and the dice rolls take me through, and other times I'll do everything right and get fucked over and out by goddamn double red skulls.

One thing I know (from experience) is that when you're in a position where your tournament life depends on a long pass from a rookie skink to another rookie skink (the tournament was not kind to my poor skinks) for a miracle play... no matter how hard you pray, the skink is not going to catch that ball. Even though he took the victory from me, the other player said he was hoping I would make the unlikely pass because it would've made a better story.

When the odds are stacked up against you, sometimes you just gotta accept defeat and wait for the next season.


Me: BH - Happily Remarried, but dealing with old stuff

“I'm losing my mind in a bedroom with a ghost
and I'm losing my mind in a bottle while I choke
I stayed years with you, no one knows (but I want them to).”
– Thought Industry


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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Update on XCOM: the Menz have unlocked the alien base but half of them are crippled because Sal1995 lost his shit when a rookie got killed and unloaded a few rounds of panic fire into everybody. He didn't kill anyone but.. well he did kill the other rookie but we built a SHIV robot and it totally rocks, so that's okay.

Sorry rook. I tend to lose my shit at times.

I'm honored SG.

[This message edited by Sal1995 at 11:56 PM, August 10th (Saturday)]


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciled


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. The thread No remorse at all (in jfo) by Thefly559 has me reeling.

If you can stomach it, if you can find the time or words, that's one guy that could use some support. Help a brother out if you can.
It's hard for me, because it triggers too many painful similarities, and things get locked in my throat.
Thanks for listening.


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Ascendant
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read it... that poor guy. Words cannot describe the anger I feel for his wife by proxy.


“Anyone who has a continuous smile on his face conceals a toughness that is almost frightening.”

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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dig. Sometimes I'll play a shitty game and the dice rolls take me through, and other times I'll do everything right and get fucked over and out by goddamn double red skulls.

One thing I know (from experience) is that when you're in a position where your tournament life depends on a long pass from a rookie skink to another rookie skink (the tournament was not kind to my poor skinks) for a miracle play... no matter how hard you pray, the skink is not going to catch that ball. Even though he took the victory from me, the other player said he was hoping I would make the unlikely pass because it would've made a better story.

When the odds are stacked up against you, sometimes you just gotta accept defeat and wait for the next season.

I don't play online much. When I did I played a Goblin team for a few games. I WAS down by 2, somehow managed to run the ball in on turn 14. All but one troll and three gobbos dead.

The guy I was playing against was cheering me on and was WOOOOO when the gobbo behind the troll was given the touchback, troll launched him and I scored again.

Blood Bowl CAN be like life. Most of the time that shit will fail miserably because you need everything to line up just right, and one fuckup will ruin the whole plan. That's why simple plans work, fewer moving parts kind of thing.

But then when you are backed into a corner and totally fucked with nothing to lose you make those plays because hey, if he eats that goblin who gives a shit, the game is over. Sometimes amazing shit happens, not because of fate but because you took that chance and it worked; the hard part is taking the chance. Letting go of control of the outcome. When you're up 4 points and it's the last turn in the second half you make dumb moves because it doesn't matter. When you're down 4 points in the second, same thing. Sometimes though, you can pull off shit that will save your game and make everybody around you, even your opponents surge to their feet and yell FUCK YES because they see you lying there, beat down and fucked up and everybody has been there. Everybody knows how that feels. Watching that guy push himself up and take those odds against him and beat them down is everybody's fantasy.

So I guess it's easy to make those long shot choices when there's nothing to lose and nothing else will work anyway. They make great stories when they work out but like you said, most of the time that skink is going to stand there with a claw up his ass eyeballing the Amazon about to stab a high heel through his skull and the ball will just bobble away, and the game ends with an anti-climactic clang.

Picking yourself up after that, that can be harder than making the hero push, because nobody is cheering you. There's no validation, hell somebody is probably shit talking you. That shit can be hard to face just because it's so mundane and everyday. Life, it's like Blood Bowl. Messy and stupid and a slave to the odds but sometimes it's awesome.

also Sal, it's all good, your alien kill count is through the roof.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for stepping up.
You guys rock.

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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. The thread No remorse at all (in jfo) by Thefly559 has me reeling.

If you can stomach it, if you can find the time or words, that's one guy that could use some support. Help a brother out if you can.

Thanks for this jjct. I would have missed it.


BS(me): 56
WW(her): 52
M: 19yrs
D-day: 8/25/2011
Good news: Wife really, really likes sex. Bad news: Just not with me.

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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JJ
You were right about evil. Fuck that limerance bullshit. That advice was terrible. Like no accountability. Obviously she knew what was going on and the children are being subjected to her horrible actions toward their father. There is no fog just a cold, calculated, vindictive , and viscous attack financially, mentally, and emotionally towards that guy and the more he breaks down the worse she gets.

[This message edited by Betrayed444 at 9:38 AM, August 11th (Sunday)]


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks onan - you're right. It's a special kind of hell, all its own.

You done good.
Seeing the guys over there strengthened me, unlocked my tongue a bit.
(not that it's necessarily a good thing, but...)

There have been so many guys like that over the time I've been here.
Last I heard from one, he was walking down the street, with his wife-scratched back and shirt in bloody tatters, and the cops were pulling up.
False DV charges.

Don't think it's all on us either.
Women who are really abused lose out too, since the courts tend to look askance at them (there being so many false charges)...& they often don't get the help they need.
It hurts everyone.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks sarge, let's just keep an eye on that poor guy - give him some Bronami. You done good.

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Onan
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My guess is she's already been working on the kids attitude towards this poor guy - he just doesn't know it yet.

My case, my son said shortly after DD "I hope dad works harder [on the marriage]". WW told me my son didn't want to talk about the affair so I didn't.

Eventually we had a long talk and he now knows the "it was 100% her decision to have an affair" philosophy.


BS(me): 56
WW(her): 52
M: 19yrs
D-day: 8/25/2011
Good news: Wife really, really likes sex. Bad news: Just not with me.

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. People who involve innocent children in their fuckery need not apply to be within blast-radius of my orbit.

I was just such a child. I know in my bones the result.
Yeah. From now on, just call me bones. Trust me, it fits.

You can steal my car, my house, my children's inheritance - go on with your bad self! But the world's most evil theft is the theft of innocence. Of childhood.
It can never be replaced.
(just worked through)


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Onan
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Default  Posted: 11:07 AM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No remorse vs. R (or even false R)..


From Life of Brian

You lucky bastard.
You lucky, lucky bastard.
Ohh, ohhh, what I'd give to be spat at on the face!
/Pityparty


BS(me): 56
WW(her): 52
M: 19yrs
D-day: 8/25/2011
Good news: Wife really, really likes sex. Bad news: Just not with me.

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the heads up jj. Lived that shit. Gave the best I could. That's a shitty place to be. I had to live with the bitch for over a year while waiting for/going through D. Otherwise, I was awarding her de-facto custody.

It was truly soul-searing. Hope he's got the kahonies. He does have something I didn't and that's you guys. Hope he keeps coming back.

FTB in every sense. Damn, now I'm pissed. Gotta go do something VERY physical to burn this off!!!

NO LUBE!!!


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Betrayed444
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NO LUBE!!!

Lol. Lots o'lube lately!
Just saying'
Tmi
Whether R works out or not I've gotten more now in that way in the last month than in 13 years

Anyway that guy is a potential recruit. We have to take him in and expose him to WAL boot camp with JJ, Big Sal, TC, DR, 545, FP,SG, Tred, and all the other combat vets here and extract him from that cesspool of a jungle he's living in.
SG your in charge of signing out the black hawk.

[This message edited by Betrayed444 at 1:22 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

RIP Brobot-209 aka, GOLIATH-1.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

5454 - you did great in there. That's where I was locked up inside earlier. NO LUBE? I played chess with a few cool amber things by my elbow today...

You all did great!
SG's stuff @ mental illness - spot on - just get out, and now you got the Brobots getting ready to unleash the Bronami!
Excellent work!


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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, jj. I seriously was in the same effing boat. Wish I knew about SI back then.

Seriously PO'd. I really wasn't kidding about needing to do something!!! That one hits way too close to home.

SG, awesome stuff.


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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DecadeCentrifuge
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Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't play online much.

Tabletop is the best way, especially when over half the players in your league have unpainted teams, and most of the others would look better unpainted. I dunno though, there is a certain appeal to the absolute bullshit of digital dice. It's probably (close to) random, but daaaamn it sure doesn't feel like it.

Also, your extended "Blood Bowl as a metaphor for life" post was genius, btw. Bravo.


HOMEWORK: I will strive to use the word, "Bronami" in casual conversation this week.


Me: BH - Happily Remarried, but dealing with old stuff

“I'm losing my mind in a bedroom with a ghost
and I'm losing my mind in a bottle while I choke
I stayed years with you, no one knows (but I want them to).”
– Thought Industry


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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol. Lots o'lube lately!
Whether R works out or not I've gotten more now in that way in the last month than in 13 years

Man, I feel like I know you pretty darn well, but damn, that is way too much TMI. You're going to make me blush!

[This message edited by thinkingclear at 7:48 AM, August 12th (Monday)]


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