I'm stuck thinking wether I should listen to my heart or my mind. Honestly I feel like my heart is in two places and I don't know what to do. I think I'm getting attached to the fresh feeling of feeling cared for, and treated like I want to.. I just don't know
Since you're posting from a WS stand point, we will move this to the WS forum where you will get a lot of really good support.
"I'm happily indifferent to the ones who have consistently been wrong" ~kd lang~
I think the most important thing to do, and the first order of business, is to come clean with your partner. Even though he doesn't know he is currently being betrayed, it is hurting him, and you are causing great harm to yourself as well.
I'd also recommend the Madhatter's thread in the "I Can Relate" forum. Madhatters have worn both hats in their current relationship: betrayed and wayward. I am a member of that thread, myself.
Best of luck to you, and welcome.
[This message edited by Wisew at 9:47 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)]
I have to ask, does your AP know about your boyfriend? Because if not then you are betraying them as well,
What start to a relationship that would be.
I would question yourself as to wether you are ready to be in a relationship right now, after a poor (?) six year go around with your BF.
IMHO, I would break it off with both men for a month and then see where your heart sits.
It won't be easy Wise, but with some heavy soul searching, and great thought you will find the right path.
Just remember to be honest with both men, and most importantly, be true and honest to yourself.
You WILL find your way.
Apathy is a weapon of mass destruction
It's ok to feel lost, it just means your alive.