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User Topic: Good things about living alone
kernel
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like many on this board, I sometimes lament being on my own all the time. This time, I'm going to threadjack my own brain and list some of the reasons why living alone is the BOMB. Here goes:

1. I control the fucking remote. Any remote.
2. I can cook whatever I want and I don't have to share.
3. Chores can wait as long as I can stand it. (which isn't very long, but that's not the point )
4. I don't have to close the bathroom door.
5. Okay, I went there so I'll go further. I can fart without fear.
6. No surprises when you take the laundry out of the dryer. Like chapstick, gum, ink. Cause I check MY pockets.
7. No garbage left in my car. The gas gauge in my car is always the same as when I parked it. (damn kids)
8. I get to have the whole couch to myself.
9. The mail is always for me. (that isn't always fun, but I like getting mail - comes from being stationed overseas so long ago and always wishing for more mail from home)
10. Total control over the grocery bill. Seriously, my kids were bottomless pits. Three kids all in sports for all their school years was frigging expensive.

Anyone else care to add?


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5058 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
ItsNotUitsMe
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yours are all really good and I'd need some time to make my own list, but the first thing that came to mind is:

Being excessively naked!


Posts: 1031 | Registered: Dec 2008
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

10. Total control over the grocery bill.

I'm still waiting for this day to arrive. As nice as it will be for my grocery bill to shrink, what I'm really looking forward to is having control over the groceries I buy. Ya know, reaching into the fridge, pantry or freezer and actually still finding the food I put in there when I got home from the store.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12144 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not having to wear pants
No one cares or knows if I don't do the dishes until just before bed, or *gasp* tomorrow.
I can sort the silver wear in the dishwasher so that it's easier to empty (stupid, but it annoys me so much when other people mix the forks spoons and knives).
Big bed. Lots of space. Lots of pillows. All for me!!
Long hot showers.
No junk food but my junk food.
No messes but my messes.

But dang, I hate having to clean up dead bugs.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get to kill my own giant cockroaches--in the shower. Yeah! Take that!

Really, this is nothing new; I was the vermin eliminator when I was M...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20035 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
hurtinky
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't even begin to imagine how awful it would be to share my home!!!

I have gotten so used to living alone. It would drive me crazy to share my house!

I can eat when I want to. I can have cereal for dinner and leftovers from dinner for breakfast, and no one (especially a nasty mother-in-law) will have an opinion about it.

I can stay up as late as I want to without worrying about keeping someone else awake. And I can sleep as late as I want. All that matters is MY schedule.

I can decorate the way I want to.

I don't have to get anyone a beer or a glass of water or anything else.

I don't have to listen to anyone snore.

I don't have to share a bathroom or a closet. I hated sharing the bathroom and the closet.

I can park my car in the garage because it isn't full of climbing equipment and mountain bikes.

I can watch all kinds of trashy and stupid TV shows.

I can spend my money the way I want to spend it.

I can wear what I want to wear. Or, more likely, not wear what someone thinks I should be wearing or wants me to wear. No more uncomfortable lingerie.

Living alone is the best. I LOVE IT!!!

And that's saying a lot. I'm proud of myself. Because I married straight out of high school and was not alone my entire adult life, until I was 48 years old. But, I took to it like a duck takes to water.


Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12



Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It will be a couple of months, but I can't wait to come back to the thread and post about living alone!!


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 621 | Registered: May 2011
epiphany2006
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No pee stains around the toilet. I actually get to eat the groceries I buy. No messes but my own.


Me:43 (BS)
Him:45 (WH)
Married 9 years,3 boys, (2-me,1-him)
D-Day 2/14/06 Valentines Day
OW-ONS with someone he met on sexsearch dot com

8/4/06 Stopped another before it got out of the phone call stage.


Three strikes and your out bud!


Posts: 356 | Registered: Mar 2006 | From: Arkansas
meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. I can sleep diagonally across my bed.
2. Thermostat. All. Mine.
3. I don't have to explain to anyone why I am making cupcakes at 1:30 AM.
4. I don't have to share the newspaper.
5. No sharing of closets, drawers, bathroom, NOTHING.
6. Listen to whatever kind of music I want without commentary.
7. Organization. Today, tomorrow, always.
8. No stomach clenching and thinking "oh shit" when I pull into the garage.
9. Popcorn and white wine for dinner.
10. Getting a mani/pedi and not having to take anyone with me.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2105 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I don't exactly live alone since I have a cat which means I can't sleep in and have hairballs and kitty litter to clean up after. But all in all its easier than a roommate or boyfriend or husband.

- i can arrange things the way I want to
- no tv blaring
- no snoring
- no sound of his blender making smoothies at 6am
- no trying to make someone else feel comfortable (I am a well trained woman brought up to serve others)
- i can eat what and when I want

Can't imagine living with someone ever again! This cat is more than enough space-sharing for me!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5798 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is so much I love about living alone (well, alone with bananas), I don't even know that I can list it all!

One awesome thing - my room is MINE. I have Christmas lights up year-round, I tiedyed my duvet cover, half the bed is always full of books, my journal and my tablet, there is no TV in there, I can eat ice cream in bed and nobody can tell me no.

[This message edited by wildbananas at 11:06 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15383 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. I can walk buck-assed naked from the bedroom to the laundry room without being self-conscience.
2. I can read whatever I want for however long I want. No having to fix food for someone else or do something for them.
3. No more having to clean the bathroom mirror of the "floss spots".
4. I don't have to be home by a certain time so I'm home waiting for him/the kids. My time is MY TIME.
5. Less laundry and less dirty dishes.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6520 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When the alarm goes off in the morning, not having to leave the bedroom until I want, because no one else is trying to sleep still.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13690 | Registered: Jul 2011
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 8:36 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

stupid, but it annoys me so much when other people mix the forks spoons and knives

Slight t/j

This is done so that they clean better. When like utensils mingle or "spoon" they don't come out as clean.

End t/j

I am amazed at what I can fix by myself now. With no one peeking over my shoulder telling me how to do it. Especially someone with zero mechanical inclination!

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21041 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can eat out of containers in the fridge and no one cares.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2589 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Ann124
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


1)I can talk on the phone to my young adult kids without having to share the conversation with XWH
2)I can have conversations on the phone with anyone without XWH standing in the same room, following me to the next room, or trying to listen from the upstairs bedroom/porch X was always listening in trying to pick up any tid bit of information he could get about anything
3)I can relax without having to be followed around the house with him looking for attention
4)There is no stress in my home
5)I can actually have people over to my home where they feel comfortable and not uneasy because of XWH
6)There is no anxiety of making sure meals, laundry, and everyone elses schedules are being met
7)If the doorbell or the phone rings I don't have to answer either one of them unless I want to
8)I can run a fan for the sheer pleasure to cool the room off instead of trying to drown out noise from others.
9)I pay the bills on time
10)I have great credit again
11)I can leave important papers etc sitting on my desk without having to worry about them
12)I can just simply be free to be me! And I am really liking/loving me

Posts: 386 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
Take2
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It has taken me a while to get here - but I'm ready to play:

- I can listen to music I like, (good one!)
- I don't have to be quiet because X is recording his music, (same rift over and over and over at all hours of the day...)
- I can eat fruit salad, and salad 24/7 in the summer, in peace.
- I can watch or read sci-fi and fantasy without hearing that I am wasting my time.
- I can paint at 3am without bothering anyone.
- Quiet in the mornings!
- I don't have to walk on eggshells cause someone else is in a bad mood!
- I can take a long bath without a knock on the door.
- I don't have to make sure X has what he needs before I go anywhere.
- If I leave leftovers in the fridge, I have leftovers in the fridge.
- Oh, I can buy a bottle of vodka, forget about it for 2 months, and lo and behold - I still a bottle of vodka!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4112 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When like utensils mingle or "spoon" they don't come out as clean.

I know, I arrange them very carefully so that they're all facing different directions. It really only works if I'm the only one who touches my dishwasher.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13690 | Registered: Jul 2011
jennie160
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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not having to accommodate others food preferences.
Putting food in the fridge/cabinet and it still being there when I want it.
Not having to clean up anyone else's mess.
Only having to pay for enough food to feed me.
I can keep the house as hot as I like.
Being able to watch all the crap tv I like without embarrassment.
Not having to put anyone else's dishes in the dishwasher (even though it's empty)

I am going to miss all of these when I move in with SO. Especially the food related ones... maybe we should have his and hers refrigerators? That's a things right?


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lonelylost
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, July 26th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have to listen to yelling anymore. I actually live in a peaceful home.


Divorced Jan 2013

"Don't look back, the road is long."
- Needtobreathe


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