Well I am on a bit of a difficult piece of ground.
Hubby has accepted a friend request from one of his work mates.
My issue with this particular person is that he organized a stripper friend of his to come over and do a show for the guys at camp, the entire crew was thrown out and barred from the camp except my hubby as he told me it was happening and he spent the entire night on the phone to me. (Hubby at that stage worked away from home 4 out of 5 wks).
Now I know in theory I can not tell him what to do with his life. He is an adult but I am not comfortable with him being on the persons friend list and having access to his friend list.
I gave hubby the bad news this morning. I said that I would prefer it if he defriended him. I said I would not have been the only wife, partner and girlfriend hurt by this persons actions or that doesn't agree with their husband accessing stripes. I wasn't hurt because hubby didn't attend but I know that everyone else went and there were issues with wives. This guy is a crew supervisor and my nick name for him is the pimp.
I felt very wrong in some ways but in others I felt it was part of my terms.
I have also made the decision for other reasons as well to resign from my studies, so I am not dependent on hubby to pay for it and keep me for another 2 yrs and wow do I feel suddenly free. (I have another plan B short course to do in the new year which will formally recognize skills I have and I will try to grow them into a business so not all is lost.).
I have not felt so free in years.
Hubby was a bit quiet when he left but dam it, I am entitled to have him respect my wishes on this.