Topic: My dad died.
Member # 12041
| Posted: 12:40 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
I am sorry LadyV. Feel free to talk to us if you need to
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Member # 34697
| Posted: 12:43 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 32943
| Posted: 12:50 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
Adding my hugs and prayers, Lady V.
Do you have any siblings?
Me: BS, 40's.
Posts: 1780 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
Member # 34353
| Posted: 1:16 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
I am sorry for your loss
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
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Posts: 1592 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 26651
| Posted: 1:32 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
So sorry for your loss, LadyV
Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
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Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25
Posts: 11539 | Registered: Dec 2009
Member # 18179
| Posted: 1:40 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
I'm sorry for your loss; I think when you have a child (or children) you mourn not only for the loss of your parent but also for the loss of your child's grandparent. It's a disorienting, sad time. My thoughts are with you.
"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment
Posts: 3859 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
Member # 15300
| Posted: 1:55 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
I'm so very sorry for your loss, LadyV. Both my parents and my darling more-like-a-mother Nana, as well. The feeling of being an orphan hits one pretty hard. Be kind to yourself for however long it takes to feel like yourself again. (((LadyV)))
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 7124 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Member # 25341
| Posted: 3:08 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
Oh no ((((Lady V))))
I'm so sorry for your loss, I am aching for you.
Be easy on yourself now, I hope you have a lot of irl support for you in your grief.
My deepest condolences.
Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...
Posts: 2538 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 18449
| Posted: 3:55 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
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Member # 25560
| Posted: 4:02 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
One step at a time. One foot in front of the other, all those platitudes are all too true. For me, I found the pain was truly eased by time, and the painful memories were quickly(!) replaced by happy ones.
Allow yourself time to grieve. Do the crying you need to, without apologies. Take time for you and lean on whoever you can, IRL and here.
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Posts: 3281 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Member # 26970
| Posted: 4:47 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
..sorry LadyV... ((((hugs))))
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf
Posts: 4103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 19595
| Posted: 4:52 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
I'm so sorry for your loss LadyV !
I have lost both parents and I will always miss them as you will your Dad.
ETA: Hold on to the precious memories. I have started to write down many of them for my DD40. My Dad has been gone 19 yrs and Mom for 7 yrs. When writing, the tears flow, I laugh out loud, and just feel so lucky I had the parents I did.
[This message edited by gma56 at 4:57 PM, July 27th (Saturday)]
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Posts: 20323 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Member # 20563
| Posted: 7:25 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
Lady V, hold on tight to Lord V and Baby V. I remember a lot of your story. Are your cousins an issue at ths point?
You were good to your father, do not doubt that.
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Posts: 6433 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Member # 13813
| Posted: 8:54 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
I am so sorry for your loss. (((LadyV)))
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
Posts: 2430 | Registered: Mar 2007
Member # 17460
| Posted: 7:50 AM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013|
I'm so sorry to hear this.
Another parentless person here. There really is nothing like that kind of void.
My heart breaks for you.
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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DS - 31 - Yikes!
Posts: 21032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Member # 30989
| Posted: 8:22 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013|
Oh, Lady V, I am so very sorry.
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke
Posts: 8337 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 21101
| Posted: 8:38 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
May you find peace and strength during this time.
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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Posts: 7807 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 6449
| Posted: 9:03 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
((((LadyV)))) My deepest sympathies in your loss. Both of my parents have gone on and I know the lost feeling that goes with their passing. Sending you good thoughts.
~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
Posts: 9654 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
Member # 31094
| Posted: 11:11 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
I'm so sorry for your loss..
Posts: 3303 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
Member # 3031
| Posted: 12:43 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013|
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