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User Topic: My dad died.
metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry LadyV. Feel free to talk to us if you need to



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((LadyV)))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4608 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Adding my hugs and prayers, Lady V.

Do you have any siblings?


Me: BS, 40's.

Posts: 1794 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: West Coast
jjsr
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry for your loss


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1610 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry for your loss, LadyV

(((LadyV)))


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ladyv)))

I'm sorry for your loss; I think when you have a child (or children) you mourn not only for the loss of your parent but also for the loss of your child's grandparent. It's a disorienting, sad time. My thoughts are with you.


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very sorry for your loss, LadyV. Both my parents and my darling more-like-a-mother Nana, as well. The feeling of being an orphan hits one pretty hard. Be kind to yourself for however long it takes to feel like yourself again. (((LadyV)))


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7166 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh no ((((Lady V))))

I'm so sorry for your loss, I am aching for you.

Be easy on yourself now, I hope you have a lot of irl support for you in your grief.

My deepest condolences.

((((Lady V))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ladyV)))

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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One step at a time. One foot in front of the other, all those platitudes are all too true. For me, I found the pain was truly eased by time, and the painful memories were quickly(!) replaced by happy ones.

Allow yourself time to grieve. Do the crying you need to, without apologies. Take time for you and lean on whoever you can, IRL and here.

Hugs. SK


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..
..sorry LadyV... ((((hugs))))

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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gma56
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so sorry for your loss LadyV !
I have lost both parents and I will always miss them as you will your Dad.

ETA: Hold on to the precious memories. I have started to write down many of them for my DD40. My Dad has been gone 19 yrs and Mom for 7 yrs. When writing, the tears flow, I laugh out loud, and just feel so lucky I had the parents I did.
Big Hugs
Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 4:57 PM, July 27th (Saturday)]


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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lady V, hold on tight to Lord V and Baby V. I remember a lot of your story. Are your cousins an issue at ths point?

You were good to your father, do not doubt that.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6515 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
okaynow
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss. (((LadyV)))


Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry to hear this.

Another parentless person here. There really is nothing like that kind of void.

My heart breaks for you.

(((((LadyV)))))

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, Lady V, I am so very sorry.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8511 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((LadyV))))

May you find peace and strength during this time.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8100 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((LadyV)))) My deepest sympathies in your loss. Both of my parents have gone on and I know the lost feeling that goes with their passing. Sending you good thoughts.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((LadyV))))
I'm so sorry for your loss..

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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ladyV)))


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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