My wife and I have been separated for two weeks since she asked for divorce on july 15th. Citing "I love you but I am not in love with you". She is staying with her sister.
I have been working the 180 plan to the max, very little contact via text and nothing in person. All texts have been friendly and upbeat (following the 180)
She text me a few moments ago and wants me to bring our dogs to her sister's house so she can spend time with them on her days off (she is a EMT and works shifts). She offered to come pick them up when I go to work tomorrow so I would not be home. I went ahead and told her I would bring the dogs to her for a couple of days and offered to eat dinner with her so we can discuss our household budget.
I know that a "date" is a violation of the 180 principle, and I know for a fact that she is still "in the fog". If we do wind up having dinner, what are some suggestions???????????????
HELP !!!. I am nervous, scared, and sad all at the same time right now.
My immediately thought is to have the dinner with her, but NO discussion of our marriage, or the separation, or anything while she is still in this divorce "fog". Right now I plan to keep it light, ask her about her workweek, tell her about mine and get through the meeting.
Any suggestions ??? Me- 49
No Children (lost 2 miscarriage)
WA- June 2011
Separated Aug 2011
Counseling- Oct 2011
Reconciled- Dec 2011
Cont'd Counseling Jan-Jun 2012
Separated- Jul 2013