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User Topic: The concept of broken people
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Being broken doesn't need to mean traumatized. He could just be an entitled asshole.

Appropriate coping skills would include the understanding that grownups have responsibilities that don't include sticking your dick in random passerby because it looks like fun.

Poor coping skills don't actually solve things. Well they might but in the way eating a box of razor blades eventually solves a stomach ache. Disguising the razor blades as candy corn and trying to insert them up your ass instead, that's the kind of thing that people do when they fixate on a certain avenue and try to find a way to make it work in the real world when the actual solution is, don't fucking eat razor blades and maybe get some tums instead and then see the doctor.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Skye
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I realized when I wrote my last post, I left out something very important.

I do not believe all cheaters are broken. Some are just assholes. Their coping skills aren't at issue. They may just be selfish. They may feel entitled. Just because one cheats doesn't mean they aren't mentally healty, imho.

And I believe many broken people don't choose to cheat.
They have other issues they deal with inappropriately.


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope this isn't a threadjack, but have to wonder why solo believes all people are broken.
Are you referring to me? I guess by "broken," I mean "flawed," or, even "just plain HUMAN."

We're all imperfect. We have vulnerabilities.

I don't use "broken" to imply that we are irreparable or damaged goods. I don't use it pejoratively. I use it to describe the human condition.

I would be glad to discuss, in another context, how brokenness has affected my life---but really, when I say that we all are broken, I just mean we all have vulnerabilities and blind spots and areas that have, at some point, been shattered and have not quite mended fully. It's part of being human. How we deal with it is what matters.


BS-me, 52
WH(Mr. Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS17
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 7968 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know, people who grow up in blatantly dysfunctional families KNOW it.
Nope, gotta disagree with this. When dysfunction is all you know, you do NOT necessarily know your family is fucked up.

I didn't.


BS-me, 52
WH(Mr. Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS17
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 7968 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
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