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User Topic: A good weekend
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 3:50 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I finally got motivated to get myself out and meet new people Saturday. An old friend had invited me to a BBQ. He lives about an hour from my mountain house. At first I was not gonna go because I really was not into it and I was not in the mountains. But I got up early Saturday morning, tossed some nice clothes in the back of the truck and me and my dog headed out. Got to my place early and I took a nap. I got a text from friend asking if I was showing up and I finally said yes I was. Picked up a couple bottles of wine and some steaks and headed out. When I got there a couple other of the guys I grew up with were there. Had not seen "the boys" in years. It was a pleasant surprise. We laughed, caught up, joked about the old days etc. I have to say I really enjoyed myself. It was nice to also meet some new people and a chat with a few of the single ladies. While I did not connect with any of them it was comfortable talking to them.

Now that my house is just about done I think I'm going to start getting out more. It really felt good to be able to mingle without any pressure. Aside from the hosts most of the people there were single. And I knew many of them so it was easy to just hang and be myself for a change. As my old friend is recently retired like myself I was invited to stop by more often. I think I'll take him up on that. I've spent the last year working on my house and chasing a couple of women who were not right for me. I think I'm just going to put my life on cruise control and see where it takes me. If someone comes into my life that's great. If not that's great too. I have put too much emphasis on finding a mate to bad results. So now I'll leave it to fate and see where that goes.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 4:49 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That sounds like the perfect weekend. I'm moving back closer to my lifelong friends.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20031 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
SBB
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Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this.

Someone (I think it was Tesla quoting someone else) talked about the time between grief and healing as "cocooning". It has always made me smile - it is what this feels like.

Here's to butterflies busting out everywhere.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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cayc
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Default  Posted: 7:21 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a really nice update. It gave me the warm fuzzies ha ha.

A hawaiian friend of mine used to constantly tell me "sometimes cayc you just have to hang ten" in reference to my habit of constantly planning, charging forward, and always trying to lock something into place.

For sure, things always go better for me when I just back off, go with the flow, "hang ten" and just be.

You've got a lot of things to relax, be happy and about and enjoy in the moment. I'm glad the pressures have backed off a bit so you can do so.


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think I'm just going to put my life on cruise control and see where it takes me.

*like*


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17341 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Now that's living my man...

#fistbump#

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 5969 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
persevere
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice post stronger


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4470 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice post!

Here's to butterflies busting out everywhere.

Hear, hear!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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dead_inside
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I spent my divorced life on cruise control and have been happy the entire time! Enjoy!


Me: FORMER BW
Him: WXH


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