My WW acted the same way before true NC. She made sure to clean things up before we looked at her account together.
Her company changed servers and old emails popped up. She wasn't expecting that. Neither was I. I read them. Even though by that time I already knew she had cheated, they crushed me.
Most companies archive work emails on the server even after they've been deleted. Mine does it for seven years. Ask to see that.
Stay strong.
He can't control what someone else sends him. If you have the PW you can check it whenever you want. He has more control if you can only check it by him doing the actual login.
Like so many others, my WH used his company blackberry and work computer to carry on his A. Naturally he was unwilling to freely hand over the phone. He would open it, quickly delete msg, and hand it to me. I didn't have a clue.
Seriously, he is not handing the PW to strangers off the street He is allowing his BW the transparency she needs to heal.
Really, don;t buy into his bullshit.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
My STBXH conducted his As using his work phone and laptop - he'd never let me near either of them.
I agree with others that he would be showing you only the content he wants you to see. Anything else would most likely have been deleted well in advance.
He could very well lose his job over this, regardless of if he's bullshitting you or not. I guess the question is if you're zen with that. I think I would be, but I'm rather vindictive at the moment.
If you're dependent on his income, I'd recommend trying to find a compromise. Maybe he could work something out with his supervisor?
“I'm losing my mind in a bedroom with a ghost and I'm losing my mind in a bottle while I choke I stayed years with you, no one knows (but I want them to).” – Thought Industry
He did not give me the p/w's for same reason - sensitive 'real info'. But even if he had, once I asked for those; even if he decided to breach work policy, he was smart enough to delete that shit before coming home anyway.
I do recall while on 'family vacation', he'd let the kids play on his work laptop. He said he'd take the kids to the beach; I claimed sour belly. He was totally NOT transparent. I went through 'their emails'. They were so jr high. Then I got the idea to forward to myself. I sent like all, but for some reason - they didn't 'go' (wireless wasn't as good back then I guess). I do think one went to some client broad and he was so mad. Oops! It was him telling OW they'd touch base and her responding how much she hearted 'touching his base'. I think I will say that to her if we ever speak, "Do you still heart touching his base?"
