Please estimate the number of minutes/hours per day/week.
I took a break of about 6 months and went on again earlier this month. I spent about 30 minutes/day 3-4 days/week and after about two weeks met the guy I'm currently seeing. I think we sent 3 e-mails back and forth before meeting.
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
When I was more actively looking, I made sure I updated my profile a little or answered more questions at least weekly to stay on top of the lists, and got a ton of traffic as a result. I also looked at profiles actively myself. So I spent a good bit more time at it. Maybe half an hour a day?
Only one person I have contacted, but he hasn't been on in awhile and hasn't responded.
So I check twice a day for a couple minutes. That's all.
Communicating is different now too. At first I liked to talk via email for a week or two, now I will send two or three emails before setting up texts or phone calls. I've learned to meet someone within two weeks of beginning to message or it is too much of a time suck for too little of a return. I can't tell if I "click" unless we meet in person and I'd prefer to discover that sooner rather than later.
It is definitely a time suck.