Topic: Is it the 17 year itch??
Member # 39169
| Posted: 7:43 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013|
Yes Sal in addition to the 20 yr anniversary, about two weeks later I found out he was sexting with at least 7 other women on my birthday. He sent me flowers that day for the 1st time ever with a card about how much he loved me. I guess we defined love differently.
Colorado I did like you - went back to running when I turned 40 and within a year did a half marathon (just a half but still). There are lots of ways to get your groove back that don't involve going out of the marriage.
Maybe Hallmark needs a card that says "happy 17th anniversary - watch your back".
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller
Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 39801
| Posted: 9:52 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013|
My 17th anniversary was such a joke. He spent the evening with her and my oldest son. Neither I nor my son knew at the time they were having an affair.
I didn't see him at all that day because we were separated.
It makes me sick to even think about it. How he could even sit beside her like that on our anniversary. I don't understand people at all.
I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13
Posts: 452 | Registered: Jul 2013
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Member # 40034
| Posted: 11:06 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013|
Interesting. We've been married for almost 17, together for 20. His A started just before our 16th anniversary, last year, and ended almost a month ago.
Posts: 6 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Texas
Member # 20563
| Posted: 1:00 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013|
Found out days before our 17th anniversary. OW was almost 40. My H has been in MLC since I had known him. He may finally be getting past that. I can only hope.
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Posts: 6605 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Member # 15906
| Posted: 1:15 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013|
My marriage seemed to be every 6 years. What I thought was the 1st A was at 6 years when he turned 30. Then 6 years later.
What it comes down to is he has poor boundaries with women in general.
SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too
Posts: 1379 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
Member # 23875
| Posted: 1:18 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013|
Right around the 16th-17th Anniver. when he started, coincided with him being in his early forties, I think there is a correlation there somewhere.
"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."
Together 33 years
6-5-06 Day of Reckoning
"The acquired inability to escape"
Posts: 1058 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
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