Like to have a guy's opinion on this. Thought I'd start with my friends here on SI! (Women feel free to comment too :)
My intentions are to find "the one" and I'm not interested in being a notch or getting notches on my bed post. I find that some of the guys I have texted with before meeting use sexual innuendos in their texts. I'm not adverse to word play and am pretty good at it, but I don't want to give the wrong impression.
What I want to communicate from the beginning is: I'm fun. I am clever. I appreciate a sexual innuendo. And, I'm not going to "do" anything until we have dated for awhile. The impression I want to convey: I'm not easy. I like sex. I wait until I am in a committed relationship before engaging in sexual intercourse or "heavy" sexual stuff.
How much flirting is appropriate? How much flirting is okay but also communicates the above values? Should I put the kabash on the sexual word play when it starts? Do I do that subtly or directly? Argh.
One guy blew up at me when I said "ok, that's too far" directly. He's apologized for that, told me his back story and how that related to his strong reaction. I guess I'd like to know how to do just a little bit of flirting, and then stop...without having to come right out and say "these are my limits" directly. I want to show it by my actions really...
So guys, How much flirting do you think is appropriate? What is the best way to communicate one's limits while also communicating that I am not a prude? Are the "good guys" adverse to sexual flirting and is the fact that it happens an indicator that the guy is only interested in a sexual relationship???