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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And apologies to jo2love!

No worries. At least I learned something new today.


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gma56
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


The joy of having teens !
I'm so glad I don't have do THAT again.

DD has an on going talks with GS13. He tells her if the her info isn't correct.

Gotta love them
You did good CG !!


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It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, holy figs!!

ETA: I've become such a prude in my old age. How the heck did that happen??

[This message edited by ThoughtIKnewYa at 10:45 PM, July 30th (Tuesday)]


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, shoot. I had to look it up too. Google "slang teabagging" but for the love of God do NOT do an image search. I have to go bleach my eyes now.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A few weeks ago,my 8 year old DD(she's almost 9) asked me how babies were made. I figured if she was old enough to ask the question,she was old enough to be told the truth.

So I did. In a very age appropriate way.

She got this horrified look on her face..and threw the covers over her head yelling, "Goodbye childhood!!"

Kids are great.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When my dd was about the same age came in the house and announced that the neighbor girl had told her that in order to have a baby the mom & dad had to get NAKED!!! IS THAT TRUE!?!?!?!

When I confirmed, she said 'WELL THEN I'M NEVER HAVING KIDS!'

Good Girl

I, too, had to google teabagging and didn't get the brew tea reference... then again, I also had to google motorboating last summer...


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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ick

I think I could have gone my entire life without having to know that


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So shake him off
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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you can handle these discussions with aplomb, caregiver.

And where the hell have all of you been living all these years??


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((cg)))

You're right, the "talk" is never one conversation, but many over the years. There's always some new term or slang that is up and coming in addition to the "basics". The term at hand has been around a while...but believe me, there's things out there you wouldn't even imagine!. Just wait until YOU have to ask THEM what something means, or have to have them explain their stifled giggles when you mention something seeemingly innocent that is now slang for a body part, sex act et... .


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you all for the hugs and the giggles. As a high school and middle school teacher, I get to stay current with most of the slang. And urban dictionary is a good safe picture free resource.

I have been known to cause giggles with my comments or blank look!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"The talk" is starting here too...with a 10 year old dd...she kept referring to "mating". I've started to slowly enlighten her, mostly because she thought you got pregnant by swallowing the sperm.

I didn't tell her you could swallow, I just corrected that isn't how the baby is made, and told her the correct way. I'll get to oral later....


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My kid got off the bus in elementary school and explained what a BJ was. I think she was in fourth grade. A kid was removed from the bus for asking another girl to give him one.

Hugs,

K


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nope...girls aren't easier!...just different.

I had to bring DD "lingerie" shopping this summer and I tell you, she did not want to do this part of growing up-"just give me the cell phone, mom!"

Now it's routine hassle to get her to wear what she needs to but it was time.

I went to great length to make it as pleasant as I could...dinner after, a new toy, too...sigh.

One hurdle past.


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A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My son has a friend since KG that has 3 older brothers, and by older I mean there is 16 years difference between him and the next one....My son learned many inappropriate words and phrases from him when they were younger.....Then I was the one that would have to explain it. Luckily I do not get embarrassed and have the attitude of knowledge is good in this arena.
He is now 16, and used a term a few weeks ago that I had to google, and I was amazed and shocked. I then said do you really know what that is, and he verbatim provided me with the definition from Urban Dictionary. He was then forbade to use it. At least in the presence of his parents and sibling.


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Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The 'teabagging' thing was mentioned on Real Housewives of OC last week.......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My son is in the army and they use every drill opportunity to drink and "teabag" the drunk guys. And that's just the mild stuff they do. Suffice it to say, cell phones are guarded carefully and people try not to pass out in a place where they can easily be undressed or moved.

Is it possible that one of these boys has an older sibling or parent who is in some type of "frat boy" (can't think of a better word that doesn't sound like generalizing...sorry) situation? Because if so, teabagging might not be the last inappropriate new word they learn...


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am not sure where the boy who said it picked it up. He did have an older step brother for several years.

When I questioned my kids DS12 "knew" the word from school. This doesn't surprise me at all. The middle school and high school kids share a bus. It is far from ideal. The bus is a hot bed of inappropriate conversations and actions. (ick, Kajem! that exactly! so sorry...)

I am quite sure there will be other inappropriate language conversations. In fact I had to define "douche" less that 24 hours ago.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Had to look it up too... Looked up motor boating at the same time.

Am I that old?


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D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

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Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my!! Thank you for the "talk" here, instead of me having to google teabagging. I had no idea what that was and now?

And as a bonus, you just helped renew my anxiety about my sons' impending teenagehood.


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Divorced - December, 2011

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StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, the talks! I had to discuss with my son whether he needed a cup for a sport he does because "mom, I keep whacking my tender bits." Thanks, hubs, for NOT taking care of the guy stuff.


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