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User Topic: Thoughts to share at a milestone
MovingUpward
♂ Guide
Member # 14866
Content  Posted: 11:54 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*Posting as a member*

Wow my 45,000 post. I am not sure all of what I've said over the years. But I do know that because of the magic of this site that I've continued to post.

It is the because of the worst that we've all sought out help and have found this place. When infidelity hit me I felt so helpless, so isolated. My now XWW had me believing that it was me and I actually believed her. It wasn't until I found SI that I realized that what I was experiencing seemed to be quite common and there were many members here to help. This insight helped me cut away my fog to see my situation clearly. I now had steps to take and things to put into action. My now XWW never bought into things and needed to file before I lost myself. I was a lurker for months before ever joining and was learning to much yet I was fearful of putting my story out there. My self esteem had been crushed. Lucky for me I was greeted with kindness and compassion. I know if there had been 2x4s thrown out quickly I would have run for the hills.

In my early times here I was able to gain confidence, set a direction, learn to laugh again, and to make others laugh again. I did enjoy the many times that Threnody would be cursing me for sprewing out her coffee onto her keyboard. The members here have become my extended family. I've been blessed to have had your help and guidance over the years. You've shared in my difficulties in my divorce and as well as the trials with my older daughter. You've celebrated my kids successes as well as my own. You've been my Christmas spirit through the card exchange plus glitter. Although I've met many through the get togethers over the years there are many more I haven't met right here that help me on. I am not sure that I could go anywhere now that there wasn't an SIer nearby. SI has made the world smaller and friendlier to me.

There is a magic here on SI. This magic is what makes this place helpful, caring, and friendly. The concept of paying things forward. Older members sticking around to help newer members. Newer members quickly becoming comfortable to help out too. Taking the time to respond and letting someone know they've been heard is powerful and comforting to a poster. To get even simple responses such as just giving virtual hugs means so much to so many. Over the years I've learned that what I thought were my wisest posts didn't impact people as much as the small ordinary sounding ones that I've never suspected. So I ask as a favor that you continue to pay things forward. Think twice about the post you're about to delete because you think it's value isn't up the what the other replies have . You don't know when a post will move someone and that someone might not be the thread starter.

I'll end by thanking everyone for the postings you've made and the support you've given. You are the magic that makes SI special. Thank you MH and DS for this site. You've changed my life along with so many others in a positive way. Thanks to the rest of the staff here that give their time to protect this site. Thanks to my SI family that keeps propping people up.

Continue the magic.

Moo


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them-Vicky Baum


Posts: 49752 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
RightTrack
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Member # 36976
Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! Keep posting!

Posts: 541 | Registered: Sep 2012
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks to YOU, Moo. I hear time and again how your compassion steered individuals and couples into healthier waters.

We're better for having you in our lives.


For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

Posts: 14635 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh...I think I have something in my eye...won't stop tearing.

You summed up SI in your post. We are not alone. There are people that care. There are people who want to help for no other reason than to help. What a great place SI is, and you help make it that way, Moo.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 10 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 8, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

What am I doing?


Posts: 1553 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 12:53 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are awesome, Moo. I've found inspiration in so many of your posts throughout the last couple of years that I have been here. I think the thing that I have found most inspiring about you is your compassion for others, as well as your sense of humor. I also feel that you are not just here for SI as a whole, but for every individual member of SI. Thank you so much for all you have done. Thank you for sharing your story as well. And thank you for providing the biggest medicine for all of us here, which is hope.

Cheers on 45K posts. That is amazing!!!!




Posts: 4516 | Registered: Dec 2010
noescape
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Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Moo}}}

thank you and to DS & MH and SI}}}}}}}


Posts: 739 | Registered: Feb 2012
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow Moo, 45,000 posts!!! you talk a lot.
Does this milestone need a celebration pedi?

Thanks for sharing your compassion, wisdom, and humor on these boards.
SI would not be the same without you.

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4002 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
scarredforever
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Member # 23875
Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"


Posts: 1050 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
somanyyears
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Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..

..you have certainly been 'paying it forward'..

holy-moly 45000 is awesome..

..do you ever wish you could put them all in one nice 'leather-bound' edition?? ..or Vol.1, Vol.2, and Vol.3..

..you are a blessing on this site.. thanks.

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 66
Her 63
Married 41 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4015 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
jjct
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Member # 17484
Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Moo)))
A big man with a big heart.
What's not to like?
This site, and my world and healing would not be the same without you.

Posts: 6006 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Threnody
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Member # 1558
Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You've been a good friend and advisor on SI for a long time, Moo. I don't suppose we'll ever know how many lives your words have touched, but I do know you're on the side of the angels.

Thank you for your words, both serious and funny. And thank you for the fact that I cannot see a hosta plant without chuckling. Those things are everywhere. I look lunatic.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14039 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
simplydevastated
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Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

45,000 posts is a huge milestone to reach.

I can't possibly thank you, Moo and everyone on SI enough for all the support that I've received over the years. I found this site a year after my first d-day. I was a mess that year. I posted the same day I joined and was greeted with such kindness. I just hope that I'm of at least a little help to others. That I can help make this horrific journey a little easier for others. We all need that helping hand up every now and then.

Thank you MH and DS for starting this site and to the staff for all their hard work each and every day and to the members for their compassion to complete strangers (and 2x4's as well ). You have each helped to restore my faith in humanity, that there really are good and faithful people still out there.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day's, listed in profile)


Posts: 5364 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will never forget the day/night I first exchanged posts with you. I was so new to all of this - not just infidelity, but the site as well. I couldn't sleep and decided to read every forum on the site. I eventually made my way down to the last forum, F&G, and thought - people are having fun??? And playing games??? Who can find anything funny right now?

Seemed improbable, but I clicked my way in and poked around a bit. You had started a "Back to School Get to Know You" thread, and invited people to introduce themselves. I hesitantly posted, and was very warmly received by you, oh so gently encouraging me to call you Moo for short.

I kept reading as more posts were added, some were clever, some played very straight, and others were hysterical. Wait - I laughed? I thought that part of me was dead?

And as I kept reading, I realized there were all types of members posting - BS, WS, MH - and they were all (gasp) human. Real people. Not villians and victims - just people.

It may sound ridiculous, but it was a revolution to me and my thinking so soon after dday. And it convinced me that I could still laugh, that there are good people on both sides of this mess, and that I absolutely WOULD survive this mess.

Huge. Revolutionary. And a salvation of sorts.

I feel fortunate to count you as a friend, Moo. And I thank you for all you have given to me and SI over the years.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22591 | Registered: Aug 2011
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats Moo, you are as much a part of SI as the Dr. Phil banners.

You have provided much good wisdom, support, and understanding to many of us along the way.

You also made me smile a few times in the early days when I felt I would never be happy again. Thank you for introducing me to Stupid Picture Friday.

Congrats!!!


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 14 & 16
Married for 21 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 6571 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
MovingUpward
♂ Guide
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone. I totally forgot about the hostas (and the rocks) story.

Wow NIK I never knew that. Makes me motivated to kick that off again. It is back to school time.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them-Vicky Baum


Posts: 49752 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, August 1st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Moo...

well, I'm pretty sure you know how much you mean to my and MH. It's been such a pleasure watching you grow and heal into this incredibly loving, patient and caring man. I'm sure it was there all along but may have gotten buried with the hurt you went through.

And thank you for sticking around and sharing your personal feelings, jokes, and love to so many here that count on you and look for you...you truly are an angel on earth

[This message edited by SI Staff at 10:33 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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