Anyway, since his PA, we are still dealing with his anger which is a HUGE deterrnt in my recovery. Has anyone R'd with someone with anger problems?
Yes. I totally hear you. My wife's anger has been one of my biggest struggles, not just since d-day, but for most of the duration of our relationship. We are almost three years out, and this is something that my wife is finally addressing. Her anger is very entrenched with her FOO issues.
Did your husband come from an angry/abusive background? Any chance that he is an ACOA (Adult Child of Alcoholic)?
It is my belief that anger is a healthy emotion, but at the same time it is an unhealthy lifestyle. When someone lives in anger, it affects them and those around them very harshly.
It's up to you whether R is impossible or not... your choice. I know the anger is so hard to deal with. ((((hugs)))) to you.