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User Topic: Not what I expected...malignant
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Lighthouse)))) I am SO SO SO glad you have a diligent doctor. It makes such a difference.

Millions of hugs and prayers.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8331 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Eranda
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just had it removed from my tongue. I had a biopsy that was apparently very thorough because he got it all on the first shot. Thank God. But if he hadn't, they would have done a second surgery like yours.

As long as it's been definitively removed, you will likely just have to go for a lot of follow-up checks. I have to go every three months for the next three years, then every six months for two years after that.

It's scary as hell, I know- but catching it early and treating it aggressively will make all the difference. Try to breath, so everything your doctors tell you, and ask a million questions.

oh... and DO NOT start looking it up on the internet. What you need to know is information about YOUR cancer in YOUR situation with YOUR treatment. Nothing else is relevant. Everything you can find online will turn you into a worried wreck.

(((hugs)))


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Posts: 4222 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: eastern PA
AgainandAgain
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((LIghthouse))))))

I have no idea what you are going through but we are all here for you. I agree with Eranda-don't google or look anything up. I've done that in the past and was convinced my situation was just as bad as the horror stories.

You'll be in my prayers.


Posts: 231 | Registered: Feb 2012
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lighthouse Heart)))
Thoughts and prayers for you.


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1390 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone. It's always encouraging that no matter the problem, the frequency of posts (or lack of in my case) or the length of being here...there's always someone around SI to offer a hug, a personal view or advice. You may not ever know what you post does for someone...I'm telling you it makes a difference. I thank you and appreciate your responses.

The surgeons office called today - there will be no preconsult visit. I'm booked for surgery on the 14th and the doctor will speak with me before he does the excise.

I'll have more info from my GP on Wednesday when I see her in person. Until then I'm staying busy and trying not to think about it...tonight I'm having a bottle of Shiraz called "Screw It" just because.

Thanks again.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

Posts: 2293 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Canada
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, August 3rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you mojo for both good news and to resist the urge to search on the internet!

(((Lighthouse)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3537 | Registered: Oct 2011
peridot
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Default  Posted: 1:59 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((( Lighthouse )))


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4694 | Registered: Feb 2008
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lighthouse)))


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3330 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shoot, I went to the plastic surgeon for a "consult" and after looking at it said, "You have a problem with me doing this now?" So we got it all done in about 40 minutes.

GDM had one on his scalp--much more painful and involve than the one on my hip.

You will be fine.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

Posts: 29541 | Registered: Apr 2003 | From: Massachusetts
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lighthouse)))


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15361 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((LighthouseHeart)))

Posts: 2792 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Canada
Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks again for the thoughts. Met with my brother and his wife on the weekend and filled them in. I've decided not to say anything to my father at this point. He's 93 and his wife is having a hip replacement next week...so his rock is going to be needing his full attention. We lost my brother 3 years ago to Pancreatic Cancer and my mother 12 years ago...unitl I know more I just can't add to this.

I'm in a holding pattern at the moment. My procedure scheduled for the 14th has been cancelled until they can find me another surgeon. Apparently the Oncologist from the Cancer Clinic (who I've not met or heard from) has requested a Sentinal Node Biopsy to be also conducted at the same time as my larger excise and the Plastic Surgeon I was booked with can't do that.

I gather they inject a dye in the area they took the tumor from(yeah fuck me - they are now referring to it as a tumor)and follow as it drains to the nearest lymph node...then they remove that and test it to see if cancer cells are present?

I don't know if this is routine anymore or what...it's just getting me a bit more anxious though.

So I hurry up and wait now.


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

Posts: 2293 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Canada
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:41 AM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((lighthouse)))

Sending along mojo and prayers.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7781 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:59 AM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((lighthouse))))

sending much prayers and strength.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
lostworld
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My 22 year old son was diagnosed with early stage III melanoma 2 years ago. I'm happy to help in any way I can.


Me: BS
Him: FWH
Married 30 yrs. w/ 2 grown kids
Dday 1: Very early 2007
Dday 2: Mid 2008 (same MOW, 14 month false R)
R'd
The affair was the aberration, not the marriage or the man.

Posts: 809 | Registered: Apr 2008
sportsfan
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lighthouse)))

I'm thinking good thoughts for you ... hang in there.


Posts: 1929 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: PA
brokenpromise
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Lighthouse

I hope you are doing ok. It is a very scary diagnosis. I was diagnosed with Acral Lentiginous Melanoma this past April. My lesion was located on my left little toe.

Yes - little toe. It can happen I had my toe amputated and thankfully, was diagnosed with a low Stage 1A.

Good resources for me were AIM at Melanoma, Melanoma International Foundation, and Melanoma Prayer Center.

I cannot stress enough to get anything that strikes you as weird or "funny" checked out by a dermatologist. Don't wait. The deeper the growth, the more dangerous the melanoma lesion can be. When in doubt, cut it out. Wear sunscreen, make sure your kids are protected, don't forget feet and toes, don't use tanning beds.

Hope you will let us know how you are doing.
Sending healing thoughts. BP


BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

Posts: 414 | Registered: Jun 2010
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BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

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BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

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BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

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