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User Topic: Not what I expected...malignant
brokenpromise
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Lighthouse

I hope you are doing ok. It is a very scary diagnosis. I was diagnosed with Acral Lentiginous Melanoma on my foot.

Yes - foot. It can happen I thankfully was diagnosed with a low Stage 1A.

Good resources for me were AIM at Melanoma, Melanoma International Foundation, and Melanoma Prayer Center.

I cannot stress enough to get anything that strikes you as weird or "funny" checked out by a dermatologist. Don't wait. The deeper the growth, the more dangerous the melanoma lesion can be. When in doubt, cut it out. Wear sunscreen, make sure your kids are protected, don't forget feet and toes, don't use tanning beds.

Hope you will let us know how you are doing.
Sending healing thoughts. BP

[This message edited by brokenpromise at 8:02 PM, August 29th (Thursday)]


BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

Posts: 414 | Registered: Jun 2010
brokenpromise
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double post. Sorry

[This message edited by brokenpromise at 6:08 PM, August 29th (Thursday)]


BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

Posts: 414 | Registered: Jun 2010
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lighthouse)))


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 36635 | Registered: Sep 2007
Lighthouse Heart
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, September 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I have an update and it's not a super happy one.

I had been booked with a new surgeon and met with him back in mid - August. In addition to explaining the procedure and healing process he ordered further tests to be done prior to surgery so they could rule things out.

First up was blood work to make sure liver and kidney function was good. All fine there - nothing out of the ordinary. That was taken care of fairly quickly back in August.

Next up was a CT scan of the abdominal and chest area. The results from that came back on Tuesday of this week...not good. The contrast used in the CT indicates there is activity in lymph nodes in the abdomen near the pancreas. It's peri pancreatic not on the pancreas.

My surgery for Oct 1 has been cancelled - they feel the radioactive stuff would certainly drain to the area that showed in the CT and they are not prepared do deal with that in that particular surgical procedure.

So I've had further blood tests and going for abdominal ultrasound on Monday and will have a long needle abdominal biopsy done later in the week. They will take about 8 core node samples and type what this is.

Nothing is certain, I'm scared and tomorrow my brother and I are driving to see my dad and his wife to tell them what has transpired. They were aware I had something removed back in July and thought as I did back then that it would all be fine - i opted to not say anything as i didnt want to worry them and it was a matter of just ensuring it was all gone and not spread.

As things have changed, there appears to be spread and I need support and can't tell others without my father knowing everything...it has to be done.

It will be fine, I will be fine. I choose to fight and hope.

All prayers and good thoughts, mojo whatever you got are gladly accepted.

Thank you :)


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

Posts: 2293 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: Canada
meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 12:51 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lighthouse,
I'm so sorry to hear this. I will be thinking of you and praying for good news from your tests this week. Sending mucho mojo, strength and healing thoughts your way. Take care.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2094 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
confused615
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((LightHouse))))))


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7142 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((LightHouse)))

Sending you strength, good thoughts, prayers, and mojo. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.


Posts: 33914 | Registered: Mar 2011
deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Lighthouse))))


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


Posts: 3215 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending it all your way, honey. (((((lighthouse)))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24436 | Registered: Aug 2011
purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for you.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2081 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lighthouse)))

Saying prayers for you.


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24350 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
sheila0304
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers, MOJO and good thoughts.
(((LIghthouse)))

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lighthouse)))

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jjsr
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you good thoughts


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1592 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Texas
heartache101
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, September 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lighthouse
Senfing you kick "C" butt mojo!
Prayers doll.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3185 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Lighthouse)))
Sending positive thoughts and healing prayers....


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15108 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you thoughts and strength. I'm so sorry.


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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Random thoughts
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers to you Lighthouse.


Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

Posts: 1570 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers and good thoughts to you.


Me: WS, 30s
XH: BS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Reconciling after divorce

"Someday you'll look back on all these days
And all this pain is gonna be invisible." - Hunter Hayes, "Invisible"


Posts: 2079 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
vivere
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, September 29th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck with your Ultrasound, Lighthouse.

I'm glad you chose to speak with all of your family. Everyone supports in their own unique way.

You're right - nothing is certain. The waiting time can be just awful. Surround yourself with love.

I am thinking of you. ((Lighthouse))


You are responsible for your own happiness :)

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