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User Topic: Karma
Emotionalhell
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does karma ever come back on the cheater ? Do they ever wake up to reality if there actions?

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callmecrazy
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes. My grandmother had an A and left my grandpa for the AP. AP stole from her mother and has created such dislike in the family her 5 children stayed away more than they would have otherwise. At my grandpas funeral (@40 years later) she admitted that leaving him was a horrible mistake and shes regretted it greatly...so in her case she has lived many years knowing she tore her family apart (NONE of the kids seem over the D even today, even thought they do love her very much) and left a very good man.

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weeping willow
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does karma ever come back on the cheater ?

Yes. My FWH's SOW (single other woman) got hit hard by the karma bus. She had the same job for 25 years, and 5 years ago she lost it! She still hasn't found another job.

My FWH got rheumatoid arthritis in the midst of the A, as well as several other health issues.

Do they ever wake up to reality if there actions?

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It depends on if they take the bull by the horns and do the hard work necessary to recover or if they rug sweep, tt (trickle truth) etc.


BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 36 years


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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep it can.
DBCxW has lost 1 of her son's, won't talk to her. None of her family will talk to her, well just her father, as he says to maintain contact.

But they invited us to visit them when we are in FL for our next cruise.

She got the other son to move in away from his Dad. Umm he has no job, no money, a suspended license and just loves to smoke pot all day - on her dimeHe is just waiting to be discovered as a famous rapper.
So she works to jobs to pay for their lifestyle.

Oh and her wonderful BF was arrested for trying to pick up young boys.

I do love the Karma Bus!!!

[This message edited by UndecidedinMA at 7:40 PM, August 2nd (Friday)]


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 926 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
RedRaven6500
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, it does. But remember, not all Karma is bad. I am Buddhist and according to Buddhism, inequality in everyone's life is due not only to heredity, environment, "nature and nurture", but also to Karma. In other words, it is the result of our own past actions and our own present doings. We ourselves are responsible for our own happiness and misery. We create our own Heaven. We create our own Hell. We are the architects of our own fate.

My husband has had Karma hurt and benefit him since his A. It hurt him by having all of the OWs find out about each other, his adult children being furious with him, and some close friends wonder how he could be so despicable. On the flip side, once he began working on himself and started making better choices, Karma improved for him. His relationship with his children improved, his true friends remained friends, while the "fake" friends went to the wayside. The OW he cheated with didn't "know" this new person and left him alone once he made it known that they were all horrible choices that he had made and no longer (and probably never truly did) had real feelings for them. I think his life i so much better now that he has become truthful to himself. We still have a lot of work to do in our R (I am finding it to be a challenge to do as the teachings say, and forgive completely, but that is my struggle to overcome.), but it is getting better everyday.


Married: 22 years
DDay: 22 Oct 2011
Year PAs/EAs started: 2004, possibly 2003
OW: three "serious" long-distance affairs, several casual affairs, some at the same time. Classy.
Began R: June 11, 2012
Our R is a work in progress.

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