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User Topic: apparently Match guy is a WS
better4me
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Angry  Posted: 4:19 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, statistically it was bound to happen. Received a call from a blocked number yesterday. I didn't answer it but let it go to voicemail. Wish I had answered so I could have reassured the caller who said, "Your match friend is married. I'm his wife. I don't blame you since he said he was divorced. He's not divorced. I will be in great trouble in more ways than one if he finds out I've contacted you." She was so brave and her voice was trembling by the end of the call...

Oh Sister! What reassurance I could have given you. What plots we could have plotted. I could have set up a date and you could have been the one to meet him at the date! I could have strung him along and gathered all sorts of info for you. I would have held your hand and given you a shoulder. Now I'm left with blocking the guy without giving him a reason for doing so, or saying something like "I've changed my mind and I think it is best if we don't meet". I want to protect his wife and not reveal that I know he is a lying sack of sh*t. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[This message edited by better4me at 4:31 PM, August 2nd (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So MatchWS ... was this one of the guys who you "have texted with before meeting use sexual innuendos in their texts"?

Or was he one of the perceived good guys?


"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he was one of the "perceived good guys" UGH

[This message edited by better4me at 4:33 PM, August 2nd (Friday)]


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any way you can get his home number and call while you know he's at work or something?

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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, he very well could be a POS but.... having dealt with a psycho exWW, I would find out for sure. He might be a good guy with a nut job for an ex.

My FWSO's ex broke into his apartment, after they were divorced 2 years - she decided she wanted him back( a pattern I came to find out). She stole his address book and called every female in it & told them to keep away from her "husband"

She even called his lawyer, at 3am, and told him that they wanted to reverse the divorce WHEEE!!!!! His lawyer called her lawyer and his reply "Welcome to my world"

So before you write him totally off, if he is a good guy, easy enough to find out.

[This message edited by UndecidedinMA at 5:43 PM, August 2nd (Friday)]


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BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Too bad the number was blocked. I wonder if you could get his home number from him somehow and call her when he isn't there to confirm? Or do you know where he lives? I would do some further investigating on whether this is legit or not.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, he very well could be a POS but.... having dealt with a psycho exWW, I would find out for sure. He might be a good guy with a nut job for an ex.

Even if it is a psycho ex, that is a lot of unnecessary drama for a guy she hasn't even met.


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Even if it is a psycho ex, that is a lot of unnecessary drama for a guy she hasn't even met.
That's what I'm thinking...


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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, August 2nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do get that, and this was before I was involved with FWSO. He did say the woman he was dating ran like the Roadrunner

I am glad we had years in before her drama met me, or I might have done the same.


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OW - DBC Xwife
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