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User Topic: 8 months out and now a miscarriage
Tear
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Default  Posted: 1:19 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

its been 8 months since dday and yesterday we found out our baby has died . waiting for the miscarriage to happen.......what did i do to deserve this much pain in such a little time frame? i could fill an ocean with the amount of tears i have cried these past eight months......i needed this baby so much but now it is gone..... i feel like a shell of the person i once was......how much pain can one person handle?

Posts: 29 | Registered: Mar 2013
noescape
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Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

:'(

((((Tear))))


Posts: 739 | Registered: Feb 2012
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 1:31 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((tear))))((((tear)))))


ME: 42 BH
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012 by 1 email to OM...OM did NOT respond.
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred...may never incur.

Posts: 2679 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 2:11 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sad to read this post.

Honestly, I have difficulty dealing with the hurt from my pretty textbook betrayal...so I certainly don't have the words to comfort you other then to say I am praying for you and that peace will find its way to you tonight.

I am sure more intelligent people will post to you...but I see it is 2 am where I am at and didn't think many people are on at this hour...and I felt compelled to try to comfort you...try and help you for a few moments anyway. Do you have a counselor working with you guys? a pastor you can call? There are prayer hotlines that are free.

I talk a lot when I am anxious...thus the longish post with not much content.

God be with you.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 2:16 AM, August 4th (Sunday)]


ME: 42 BH
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012 by 1 email to OM...OM did NOT respond.
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred...may never incur.

Posts: 2679 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
ItsaClimb
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Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so, so sorry Tear {hugs}


BS 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 18yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 769 | Registered: Oct 2012
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:34 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HUGS))) I am so sorry. There are no words to convey how much.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8757 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
TemporalReset
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Default  Posted: 2:38 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tear,

I have no words to describe how sorry I am. If I could take any of your pain on me I would. Just know that there are people thinking about you right now and sending you love.

I know absolutely nothing about you but if you need someone to talk to, PM me, I am at work until 5:30 am est with absolutely nothing to do.

TR


Me: BS 40
Her: WS 32
Kids: 3,6
A1 - Summer 2009 PA, 2009-2011 Incomplete or False R
A2 - 2012-2013 EA
Status: NC AP, MC & R

Posts: 57 | Registered: Jul 2013
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 3:01 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very sorry for your loss Tear.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..divorced slut who prefers committed men, specializing in befriending and bopping the fathers of her kids team mates
Status..%&$#@?$

Posts: 3953 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
brainless twit
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Default  Posted: 3:08 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying that you receive comfort... I can't imagine and I am so, so sorry.

((((((((Tear))))))))


"Sometimes I guess there just aren't enough rocks." --Forrest Gump

D-Day 8/7/06
Divorced 12/14/09
R Began 5/21/11
D-Day #2 7/9/13 (OW #2 is OW #1's first cousin)
Limbo? I don't even know if that's what this is.


Posts: 1537 | Registered: Sep 2006 | From: Kentucky
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 5:14 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry.

I know it is so hard but try and take care of yourself, one day at time.

((tear))


"You can never have too much happy!"

Posts: 1140 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
monarchwings
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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss of your sweet baby. I have have lost a child. I understand the pain so I will share in your grief. I remember it hurting so bad that my heart felt like it was going to break open. I have since learned that death is indiscriminate. Time will heal and you will get through this prayers to you....

Posts: 71 | Registered: Jul 2013
nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry.


Me: BH 56.........Her: WW 43
DD: 6..........DS: 4
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

Posts: 803 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: U.S.A.
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 14 and 11
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/12/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 416 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Tear)))


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 34684 | Registered: Sep 2007
cayc
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Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Tear))))


BS 45, WH 38
M 8 years, together 10
Real DDay 10/07/11
Too many OW to count.
D final on 6/21/12
You have to walk away from the past in slow motion as it explodes behind you, like in a John Woo movie.

Posts: 2782 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Walking
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for you. Truly. I hope you have found a good therapist. These set backs are the heavy lifting in life so don't try and cope alone, or only with a partner you may still have trust issues with. Surround yourself with as much support as you can get. Your OB/Gyn doctor may be able to recommend a good loss counselor. Hugs from afar.

Posts: 57 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Midwest
5454real
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

condolences and prayers.

(((Tear)))


BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2064 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Take2
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs and Prayers (((Tear))). I am so very sorry.


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4090 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Tear)))

I am so sorry.




Posts: 30622 | Registered: Mar 2011
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, August 4th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((Tear)))))))

I am so sorry. Please keep posting.

Their are several of us on this site who have Angel Babies. There is nothing worse than feeling you are alone in dealing with this. We are here for you.

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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