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User Topic: Will swoon for decent treatment
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Maybe someday I'll find someone like that.......

It's good to hear there still are guys out there that believe in doing small meaningful things for us.



BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IL -- thank you for sharing. I find reading about your relationship so uplifting and helpful. I really appreciate it when you share both the good stuff and the bad stuff. Especially the good

I completely understand what you're saying. The last years of my M were filled with lousy treatment from X. I appreciate it so much when TG does the little things.

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aww that's so sweet! Sounds like you have a keeper. :)

Hearing stuff like that makes me hopeful for the future. It also makes me a little sad that I wasted a decade on a man that didn't do any sweet gestures like that at his best.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is sad that many of us thought is was normal to be ignored or dismissed or in some cases even worse.

I do believe there are good, kind, decent men in the world. Imperfect, but capable of treating us thoughtfully.

We are opening up a small joint savings account tomorrow to save up for a vacation next year. We've never had much money to go any where too far, or to stay more than 2 nights indoors, we usually camp. It's hopeful!

[This message edited by InnerLight at 10:32 PM, August 8th (Thursday)]

BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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Default  Posted: 1:37 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's listening, he's speaking your love language. He sounds like a keeper

^^^^ My thoughts exactly! Isn't it amazing how good it feels when a man actually appreciates you? Puts in some (or a lot) of effort? I also wonder why I ever put up with the treatment I got in the past. We all deserve better - and I'm really glad you found it!

Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr

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