Sounds like we're in the same shoes, emotionalgirl. Non-remorseful, carrot-dangling husbands.
Mine wants to give me just enough to make me think things are getting better, just not too much so that he can continue his affair one way or another. And not agreeing to no contact.
I am still very new to this, but all I can offer is advice that people have given me this past week... TIME is a huge factor. I know you don't want your marriage to be over, but you have to consider it to be a possibility, and start getting your affairs (no pun intended) in order. Finances, living situations, and yes, talk to an attorney. You don't have to hire said attorney, or file for divorce, just talk to someone who can give you the legal ups and downs of what just happened.
I want so badly to move on from this, to heal with my husband and live happily ever after. But I'm being realistic, and trying to figure out alternatives. He has shown me he's not the man I thought he was, so I'm no longer able to even remotely predict what he will do from here on out.
Come here often, seek support from others who have gone through/ are going through the same thing. We can't fix anything, but we can listen and offer our very best advice to help you through this hard time.
::hugs::me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."