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User Topic: Sharpen your axe.
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, August 5th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As a person that works in the natural resources field...this example resonated well with me...thought I would share it.

You are an axe. Life is a continuous row of firewood that needs to be split. At the start of our life we are dull...and splitting even small logs is tough. But with each trial and painful experience we have an opportunity to sharpen our axe.

If we choose to take that opportunity to sharpen our axe the next piece of wood splits easier. Repeat this process and soon you are splitting bigger and bigger pieces of wood.

If you fail to take these trials and sharpen your axe...the work remains tough...and will get tougher as bigger pieces of wood appear before you. (look back on your life and see just how much bigger the pieces of wood you are splitting NOW compare to those you were handed to split back 20 years ago...bigger pieces of wood come to all of us over our lifetime...with or without affairs as part of that pile).

You will occasionally miss the log you are swinging at and hit the ground...taking the edge of your axe.

You will get tired and frustrated. You will need to sit on a stump and rest some...rest is needed. But that wood is yours to split...are you going to do it with a dull or sharp axe? The choice is yours.

I am going to try to keep this visual in mind the next time I sit on my stump. Before I stand up I will ponder what caused me to take a break, turn that trial into wisdom and use that to sharpen my axe.

Then I will stand and split some more wood.

God be with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 11:46 PM, August 5th (Monday)]


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like this analogy. Thanks for sharing this.

Kind of fits in with part of your user name, too.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Or, you could just pull a Lizzy Borden. Just kidding, but with a user name like yours, and a topic title of 'sharpen your axe', I couldn't help myself.

Anyway, back on topic...great analogy Blake. But we must also remember that some wood is very very difficult to split, (around here it is sweet gum) and sometimes it may be in our best interest to walk away from that gum tree. Pouring all our energies into splitting that sweet gum could sometimes wear us down to the point that regardless of how many times we sharpen our axe the splitting never gets any easier, and our axe becomes whittled down to no more than a nub.


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Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
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Posts: 7099 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, August 6th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

painpaingoaway...I am impressed with your knowledge of wood quality!

I like what you say about swinging even a sharp axe into difficult wood. I remember one time, early in our marriage, it was a cold winters day...I was splitting frozen northern red oak...and it exploded apart when I hit it with my axe. My wife came out to watch...was impressed...and wanted to try it. I gave her my axe...let her swing away...she never split the log. She thanked me for the opportunity, handed me the axe, and went back inside.

At that moment I kicked the piece of American elm off the splitting block and went back to the red oak! (elm has a cross grain to it...almost impossible to split...oak has radial grain and easily splits...made easier by being frozen!)

Yep...that's me!

My point? My example is very simplistic here. Where it really fails in comparison to working on the affair is that logs cant change their grain...an elm will always be an elm and stay impossible to split.

People on the other hand CAN change and open up in ways you never would have thought possible...I have witnessed this first hand within myself...so I KNOW it CAN happen.

Now...will it happen with my wife? I don't know. I just know at this point in time I have energy to keep swinging my axe...keep sharpening....keep swinging. Yes, I know it appears to be an American elm log right now...but my next swing might just find that the log turned into frozen northern red oak.

That is faith and hope. I got no facts to support this...but faith and hope can exist where facts don't exist.

God be with us all.

thanks again painpaingoaway...a woman who knows something about our natural world is very attractive, impressive to me...it is one of the first things that attracted me to my wife. Oh, and she took second in speed chop in college so she knows how to swing an axe....we were on the same college forestry team together...those were good days.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 8:01 PM, August 6th (Tuesday)]


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Posts: 3984 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

People on the other hand CAN change and open up in ways you never would have thought possible...I have witnessed this first hand within myself...so I KNOW it CAN happen.
Yes, yes it can. We have many positive R stories right here on SI. And I feel sure yours will be too. I just hate seeing some people (more often women than men I believe), get 'stuck' swinging that axe at a piece of American elm until it destroys them.

thanks again painpaingoaway...a woman who knows something about our natural world is very attractive, impressive to me...

Well thank you sir. I am a forest-farmed, log-grown Shiitake mushroom farmer. So I know a 'widdle' bit about sweet gum and oak. However, we do use chainsaws to cut, and angle grinders converted to high speed drills to drill our wood with, lol.

Shiitakes fruiting on Sweet gum this past Spring:


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7099 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Tred
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it wrong that I used a hydraulic splitter on the 3 cords of Scarlet Oak and Black Cherry I just split? Of course, I still own two good mauls, just so much easier with a splitter!


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it wrong that I used a hydraulic splitter on the 3 cords of Scarlet Oak and Black Cherry I just split? Of course, I still own two good mauls, just so much easier with a splitter!
Oh yes, so very wrong of you Tred. Shame on you, that's cheating, you should have done it all by hand. Look at all the exercise you missed out on!


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7099 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha! I worked with a professor on campus in agroforestry who did some cost return analysis on non-mainstream forest products...one was shitake mushroom production. I am a forester by trade.

So enjoy the natural world...am a conservationists, not a preservationist...I enjoy the wise use of our natural world...looks like you do too! Cool pics!!! Didn't know we could do that on this site.

My arms are tired of swinging today...need a break.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3984 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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