But, I am going by myself to a conference about an 1 1/2 hours from here. I am so afraid, but I am just going to do it. I will be so proud when it's over. But getting there and back Whew!!
My IC has been working on this since I need to gain my independence and start a life outside my home. Without being able to get out, I will never be free to pursue my own dreams, have friends, etc..
I have been practicing getting "lost" in areas where I am sorta familiar with and it has helped some, but GPS's aren't always right I found out, but eventually I find my way home.
Anybody out there have this fear? Anybody out there have any other methods that might help me get over this?
Good luck to you
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I really hope that your drive goes well and that it helps build your confidence!
What exactly do you fear about getting lost? That you will never find your way? Or do you fear ending up in a dangerous neighborhood? I have done that and I simply keep driving until I get out of it. And if I get REALLY lost, I call someone or ask directions from a local.
You can do this - I'm very impressed by your bravery in attempting something that causes you such anxiety. It sounds like you are doing good prep work. And like most things that scare us - once we navigate it successfully, the situation loses its hold over us.
Sending strength and peace.
I am so afraid, but I am just going to do it
I get lost all the time, so it doesn't stress me out at all (unless it's making me late for an important appointment). If the direction I'm going *seems* wrong to me, then I just stop somewhere and ask.
Cities that are laid out like grids (Tucson) are awesome for me, as are cities that have tall landmarks to use as a compass (Tucson again).
As the others pointed out.....look at a map. Become familiar with the main roads and the general sense of direction. I used to carry a big 7-county atlas map (that was platted in my car) with me. And if I was out of my area, I'd stop and get a map of my current location. That way I could pinpoint where I currently was because if I knew where I was, then I wasn't really lost I just wasn't where I wanted to be yet, kwim?
(my phobia is parking. Not *how* to park, but *where*. My very 1st question whenever I'm going somewhere that I'm not familiar with is "what's the parking situation?")
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
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Friday I have a job interview in another town. Since I did it once I can do it again.
I will try google maps and mapquest sounds goochi (great-as my DD would say!)
itsaclimb: I hear you. I only go to specific places that I know. I hope it gets easier for you.
To all of you who can just get out there and go and get lost, I'm jealous. I will get there some day.
gonnabe: Parking is a real issue in my area. No real parking, you just have to find a spot and hope your car wont get towed or ticketed. ug I hate it.
Thanks to you all
The only way out of anxiety is through! The more you do it, the less anxious you will be, and so you will wonder why you were nervous at all. Go you!
I just didn't go places that required expressway driving, which limits you a lot. I had no idea how to do it but when my kids got older I knew they would be going to college soon and I wanted to drive to see them and help them move in and out so I taught myself to do it. Little by little. I've done well, can't count the number of times I drove to see them or help them in many ways. I still don't like it and avoid it when I don't have to, but I "can" and that makes the difference. Also practice makes perfect. The less you do it, the more out of practice you get. I don't find driving relaxing at all. Dread it most times.
Don't worry about others, stay in the right lane and don't panic about people getting mad at you. Let them pass. Who cares? That's what I tell myself. I do breathing exercises and positive self-talk.
I don't like the fast, constant speed driving. I actually am relieved when there is a traffic jam because I can slow down, take a break from nerves and collect myself.