If he repeats this bullshit in front of your husband you will have another uphill battle. That is my opinion. It seems to me he can only cause harm to you and to your efforts to R. Our mc said a few mild things that caused a load of problems. I think it's imperative that you not only find another psychologist but that you go to the first appointment alone so that you can determine if it feels right.
Do not waste one more minute of your pain with this therapist. Sometimes, it's just not a good fit. IMHO, this one is SO not a good fit.