Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
Find a Local Couselor
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: BrokenFuture (44249)

New Beginnings Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Class Reunion Poll
nowiknow23
♀ Guide
Member # 33226
DOH!  Posted: 7:37 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My 30th class reunion is this weekend. Even though I've attended all the previous ones, had a great time at each of them, and know plenty of friends who will be going, I've paid no attention to this one up until tonight, when my phone, FB, and email started blowing up with former classmates asking me if I'm coming.

*sigh*

Now I'm waffling back and forth - Go? Don't go? Show up at the casual Friday night event and ditch the dinner/dance on Saturday? Skip it all and spend the weekend recharging and catching up with my own life since I've been traveling the past two weeks?

For every pro, there's a con...

PRO: see old friends
CON: have to update old friends on the past several years (seems like it would be exhausting)

PRO: social time (one of my personal goals to stretch myself)
CON: giving up private time

PRO: It's in my hometown, so I can also spend time with my sister, nephews, and parents
CON: It's two hours from home, so I'd be cutting short my weekend errand time

PRO: Only happens every 10 years
CON: It's happening right now!

I could do this all night.

So, good people - what's your vote?

Go to it all
Go to just the casual Friday thing
Stay home and skip the whole thing

I'm in your hands. Be gentle with me.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24414 | Registered: Aug 2011
Amazonia
♀ Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would skip it, but I probably won't ever go to any of mine because there are about 3 people left from high school who I want to keep in touch with, and I'd rather just grab brunch with them when I'm already in town.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13560 | Registered: Jul 2011
MovingUpward
♂ Guide
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Based on your past experiences, if I was you I'd go.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51485 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
wildbananas
♀ Member
Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with Moo on this one, Empress.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15360 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
gma56
♀ Member
Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Moo and Nanners, I would go. You've enjoyed it in past and so you will this time. You're choosing if for just one event or the whole weekend. I doubt you will regret it.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20322 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
little turtle
♀ Member
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go on Friday. Then, decide if you want to go on Saturday. Like you said, it's only every 10 years and you had a great time last time. This is one of your current goals and you can catch up on weekend errands another day. There won't be another 30th reunion...

Who says you have to update everyone on your story?? Just give a quick version.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4131 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
nowiknow23
♀ Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can hardly argue with the collective wisdom of Moo, gma, and Princess Bananahammock.

I'll go. I'll commit to the Friday night casual thing, and then play it by ear from there.

Thanks, loves.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24414 | Registered: Aug 2011
nowiknow23
♀ Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, August 7th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cross-posted with you turtle - but we were on the same wavelength. Thanks, honey.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24414 | Registered: Aug 2011
persevere
♀ Member
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 12:41 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with the masses - try out Friday and gauge it from there.


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4374 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Sad in AZ
♀ Member
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 4:36 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go. If anyone asks, you divorced him because you didn't like his girlfriend. It either elicits a laugh or shocked silence.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19794 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
homewrecked2011
♀ Member
Member # 34678
Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My opinion is from my Mom's life choices.

Mom says, "As you get older it is easy to just stay home. I make it a point to search out activites to go and to do. If I don't like something I can easily leave, but more often than not I really have a good time".

Who knows, you may meet someone who's husband has just left her for another woman and is devistated and needs SI!

Or you might have no drama for an entire evening! LOL


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 1964 | Registered: Jan 2012
better4me
♀ Member
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(and if you find yourself with nothing to do for a brief period of time on Saturday or Sunday...you call that SI friend of yours who happens to live in your home town, because you would just LOVE to see her)


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3006 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
nowiknow23
♀ Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

b4me - I was actually just plotting out whether I could grab you for lunch on Saturday!!

So... is it a date?


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24414 | Registered: Aug 2011
Bobbi_sue
♀ Member
Member # 10347
Default  Posted: 5:59 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would go. But then I like class reunions. Sounds like you sort of do too, at least have in the past.

It is easy (most of the time) IMO to change the subject. Just simply tell people you split with him and then talk about something else. Details not needed. I went to my 15th reunion soon after splitting with my XH. Had a good time and don't really recall talking about him much.


Posts: 5682 | Registered: Apr 2006
ninebark
♀ Member
Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't got to my first class reunion becuase I didn't really want to see anyone from high school..lol.

I went to my second one and had a blast. I was surprised about how different my perception of myself in highschool was from everyone else.

I thought I was an outcast and a nerd, they say me a the really smart girl who got along with everyone. Who knew Did my self esteme wonders..lol

Have a great time at that reunion!


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
ISPIFFD
♀ Member
Member # 26367
Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I vote Go! My 35th reunion was last October. I was in town anyway because my dad had just passed so I'd moved back "home" months earlier to be with him. I had nothing going on but was busy wallowing and didn't want to have to explain everything.

One of my classmates wouldn't let me opt out. She picked me up, took me to every event (it was an all-weekend thing), and I had a blast! I'm so glad I went, it was definitely what I needed and a lot of fun. As a result, some of us got together again this past April because the reunion had been so much fun.

So I think you should Go


Me: BW (54)
Him: WH (61)
7/14/11 - Divorced

Posts: 1804 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: another world
nowiknow23
♀ Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, I went on Friday night. And I had a blast! Stayed out way too late, talked myself hoarse, and laughed more than I have in ages.

At one point, I found myself at a table with 4 other divorced classmates, each of whom had been a BS. DDay stories were traded, iTips shared, and new beginnings celebrated.

I came home the next afternoon to support a friend who is going through a D (not infidelity related), but first lingered long enough to share a delightful lunch with better4me. So good to catch up and chat.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 5:29 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24414 | Registered: Aug 2011
MovingUpward
♂ Guide
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad that it wasa blast


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51485 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
little turtle
♀ Member
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I'm glad you went and had a good time.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4131 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
nowiknow23
♀ Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And now everyone's posting pictures, both from this weekend AND from way WAY back in the day.

Lordy - nothing more aging than seeing so many pictures of yourself when you were young.

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 3:13 PM, August 12th (Monday)]


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24414 | Registered: Aug 2011
Topic Posts: 21
Pages: 1 · 2

Return to Forum: New Beginnings Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.