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User Topic: Virtual Hugs
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I look it like shorthand for "I'm sorry, this sucks, you've been heard"...but hey look at that..it took me the exact same amount of time to type all those words as it does to type this ((((hugs)))).


I think a boundary is a boundary if that's one of yours then good for you, and it should be respected.

You and QS are united about that, and that's another good thing.

I can see how the innocent can slide down into the not so innocent.

So...I promise not to (((hug))) you, Aubrie, unless you post asking for hugs.

I'll stick to my words.


Posts: 3419 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BS here, in the very beginning, when I was completely alone, those hugs were sometimes the only comfort for me. They helped me to get through another day.

Would I have rather had them from someone close? Of course. I did not have that.

I was sitting alone in my house every night screaming, sometimes just the thought that someone, somewhere, understood and had compassion kept me going, gave me some hope in people.


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

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dday December 20, 2013
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Posts: 1418 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I met Gonnabe, first thing she did was come thru the door with arms wide open. I was all and didn't know what to do with myself.


Lady, re-read your PM's. You were warned beforehand about what I was gonna be bringing your way when I saw you


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8074 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I appreciated the warning. I prepared myself the whole walk thru the hotel.

BTW people, Gonnabe is the bomb.com IRL.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I appreciated the warning. I prepared myself the whole walk thru the hotel

I'm sorry Aub. If I had known that you were anxious about it, I could have restrained myself.
So, no more hugs for you! (spoken in my best Seinfeld Soup Nazi voice).... (and now I'll stop 'jacking your thread)

And PS.....*thanks* you're pretty darn cool yourself.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're funny.

Hugs once in a while are ok. Hugs from family and close female friends are ok. I'm not completely anti-hug. I'm just not a clinger. Huge difference.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6291 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I'm introduced to a woman in real life I shake their hand and kiss both cheeks

Vous etes de France?

How embarrassed should I be that my mind added "sets of" before the cheeks? Time out in a corner fo sho


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'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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TimeToManUp
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I avoid any kind of emoticons or the like, personally. Unfortunately, they became a big oil slick on the slippery slope in my case, and they make TCD very uncomfortable. I haven't type anything like it since it all went down.

I am a hugger, though. But not in the "I hug everyone" sense. I mean that I'm a fairly big guy and they are big bear hugs. I am really awkward with the polite friend hug, so I avoid it whenever possible. If you aren't someone I should be comfortable hugging for real, I don't. It was actually one of TCD's biggest feelings of loss, losing the specialness of my hugs.


I know we're worth it.
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BW (tattoodchinadoll-31)
D-Day: 12/22/11
Together 15 years, married for 10.
Three daughters, 8, 4 and 2.

Posts: 227 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: New Jersey
idiot85
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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sometimes just one cheek other times both- i wait to see if they're expecting another- wouldn't wanna leave them hanging!

In london it's pretty normal not just for the froggies... I mean ahem french.

I doubt id randomly hug a girl but i have on occasion if i feel a 'concrete' hugs needed (I'm a bit heavy handed!)

Uncertainone- time out!! Haha

My wife never hugs people or uses emoticons- never even kisses on text! I put lots because I'm manly like that.


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Posts: 575 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Old Blighty
DragnHeart
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I'm introduced to a woman in real life I shake their hand and kiss both cheeks, just shake hands with blokes but maybe that's a cultural difference!

I am a big hugger IRL and online. And I think it's the way I was raised. We always did the kiss both cheeks + hug thing to both men and woman, in the family, at church etc. It was just "normal".

When i see a thread where everyone is giving hugs I actually feel guilty if I don't as well. I could spend all day on here just giving out hugs. Honestly I never thought about it as a boundary or that it could be perceived as inappropriate. Weird since I'm sure if wh was here posting/receiig hugs I would feel he'd have to be careful since he has horrible boundaries.

I also don't really pay attention to gender. In fact up until this morning I had thought one member was male (assumption from their username) and was really happy I had referred to them by name and not "he".


Posts: 3064 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Canada
abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like hugs. I want to give all you hug haters this:

ETA: And plus- it's Dean Winchester. Can't go wrong with that!

[This message edited by abbycadabby at 2:41 PM, August 9th (Friday)]


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ROTFLMAO@Abby


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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hardlessons
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Based on the above scene hugs can be appropriate considering that Sam and Dean are battling Satan and the forces of evil on a daily basis.

Jeez I am not heartless!!


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Posts: 880 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Arizona
abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, hardlessons- they are. I LOVE this show!

But I thought the expression on Dean's face was so appropriate!


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh. My. Gawd.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6291 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am SUCH a troublemaker!


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That kind of hug would scare the crap out of me.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6291 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know you're sitting over there itching, breaking out in hives just from watching it! I imagine you'd swoon if you were receiving it!

[This message edited by abbycadabby at 3:08 PM, August 9th (Friday)]


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tired girl
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You better watch out Aubrie if we ever meet, and I am not a hugger, just sayin


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