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User Topic: Do I or don't I ..be authentic
FlySomeday
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok SI friends. My update- ONe day before my second trial (first was fabulous but he appealed it) Douche bag and I finally agreed on everything--this past Monday. This means that he gets his no fault divorce which would have otherwise been Adultery grounds, he made out with many of the assets as I caved because I couldn't take it or care. I got the house and he gets the kids now every other F-M am and every wednesday overnight. A lot right?? Well, douche insisted on having the ORal testimony in front of the Judge on our Trial Day instead of the trial originally scheduled. He wanted that Final Divorce Decree and he wanted it then in his hot little hands. Couldn't wait, ya know why? Because he is getting married folks!! Yes, that is right..ink isn't even dry yet and I don't think it is even registered in the courts yet but he informed me that I'm officially off his insurance AND informed the kids that he is getting married in 2 weeks (I expected it.). Here is the ??? I'm douche's 3rd wife, Whorebitch will be his 4th wife. Friends gave me a bottle of wine to regift to her when appropriate. I think it is appropriate, do you? The wine is called "Quattro". How fitting, huh?. I Reeeeeeealy want to give them this wine gift! And before you all give me the scorned woman speech hear me out. I happen to have a very good sense of humor. It is funny as shit (I think). I can be a little dark and a smidge scarcastic at times. I've bit my effing tongue for nearly two years watching my Ps and Qs for court. Now, I just feel like being a little bit authentic! is there anything at all wrong with that? Thanks for weighing in with me.


Digging Deep in the Mud

Posts: 232 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Virginia
Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can some other friend give it to her? Preferably with a copy of the movie "Gaslighting" and the book "The Script". After all, she will be able to get a glimpse of her future.

Here's the book, BTW:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B005DI98SO


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is one of the funniest things I've read in a long time! I'm trying to stifle my laughter 'cuz the kids are here in the room with me & would want to know what's so funny.

Quattro. OMG, Quattro!!!!!!!!!! I'm dying here......


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9815 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you need someone to double dare ya?

I love it, but would not do it. The new mrs is one very crazy individual. No telling what she would do in retaliation!

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5256 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Double dare post

[This message edited by Kajem at 10:12 PM, August 8th (Thursday)]


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5256 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Open up the Quattro yourself and drink a toast (or two) to his newest victim.

Put this guy in your rear-view mirror.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is funny as hell but makes her waaaaaay more important than she is.

I say don't do it. Pour it down thetoilet and make it official/ceremonial by doing a piss on it and flushing it away.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with gonnabe- drink the wine yourself.

I wanted to send balloons and a thank you card to OW at her office after D was final. Looking back I'm glad I didn't - keep all of your energy - he deserves none of it.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 2:14 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I vote for be authentic. I hear your energy in your humor, and I think you will be even more energized executing the gifting. I don't think - for you anyway - that actually giving the gift is giving her your energy. It is letting your energy flow and shine and please YOU. HAHAHAHAHAHA


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1220 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 3:25 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why bother. Im sure they would not get the irony of it anyway. Drink it yourself and toast your freedom from that asshole. As for #4 she will find out soon enough what a shitty person he is. I'd send a gift too just for fun. My XWW is getting M again to some dude 15 years her junior. But I have to admit that since she has been with this guy she has actually been leaving me alone. And this from a woman who has made my life hell since I left her cheating ass many years ago. I'd love to take the poor bastard to the side and tell him what he is in for. But that's for him to find out. He is nice to my son and that's all I care about. I intend on sending a gift. Its the least I can do for the poor guy.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Funny. As. Hell.

But I'm with the drink it yourself crowd. Unless you could orchestrate it so that a friend gave it to them and you could be inocently on the sidelines


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Dagny07
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have a party. Drink it with friends. Have "Who's Sorry Now?" playing for your Happy Dance.


Me:BW Him: FWH E/A
M: 29 years, together 36 : both guilty of PAs 20+ years ago
CDay#1 Oct 06 (false); DDay#2 Oct 07 (truth from OW's BH)
R: Tenaciously optimistic

Posts: 834 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Midwest
Dagny07
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have a party. Drink it with friends. Have "Who's Sorry Now?" playing for your Happy Dance.


Me:BW Him: FWH E/A
M: 29 years, together 36 : both guilty of PAs 20+ years ago
CDay#1 Oct 06 (false); DDay#2 Oct 07 (truth from OW's BH)
R: Tenaciously optimistic

Posts: 834 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Midwest
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm...

When my father married my first stepmother (she was never an OW to my mother), my mom sent her a sympathy card.

When they got divorced 3 yrs later, she told my mother that when she got the card she thought "wow, what a weirdo." But she dug that card out during the divorce and thought "Wow, she was right".


Posts: 3419 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
nomistakeaboutit
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...only if you can also find one named Cinco, so you can add a yellow PostIt note which says, "This ones not for you, but you'll know who to give it to in about three years."


Me: BH 58.........Her: WW 45
DD: 8..........DS: 5
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
...................................
"It's like a nightmare within a nightmare, which in and of itself is a nightmare!"

Posts: 953 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: U.S.A.
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh no, I'm dying again!!!!! Cinco!!!!!!

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 8:41 PM, August 9th (Friday)]


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9815 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd have to send it. But that's me! X is in lurve with one of his AP's. She has 4 kids with 4 different daddies and only has custody of one of them. I think she's trying to make no. 5. I'm praying for triplets! That's my dark sense of humor...


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

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FlySomeday
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Dear G-d! I love you all! NG-Hilarious! Of course they make wine called Cinco! How do I not take this opportunity ya know? It is soooooo lovely. *taps fingers* Still seriously pondering delivery.


Digging Deep in the Mud

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FlySomeday
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks no mistake for the inspiration and feeding this humor monster.


Digging Deep in the Mud

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stillstrong
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh no, I'm dying again!!!!! Cinco!!!!!!


Best. Thing. Ever!


Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13


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