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User Topic: Mountains
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What to do when you are the only one who thinks they can climb the mountain.

I need strength but why can't I catch a break?

The more you convince others you are ok the worse it gets. Then you have supportive people who try but you run the danger of them turning into those that don't think you can cross the mountain.

I hope I am strong enough to make it through this battle..


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, August 8th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are strong enough. Do it!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1827 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 3:39 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The road to self contentment is best traveled alone. Once you get to your happy place others will be there to greet you. Don't allow anyone, no matter how good their intentions hold you back.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What stronger said ^^^.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17320 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's tough, but you can make it. I've been having a heck of a bad run the last while too, and beginning to wonder if anyone around me still believes I can get where I'm going. My main co-worker actually gets me through...no matter what is happening with me, he gives me advice, then laughs his head off at me. He just keeps saying if that only happens to one in 10,000, of course it's gonna be you DM! and he laughs. And I call him an ass. Then I laugh. And I get on with it again.

Just keep going. We will get there, we are just taking the scenic route.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The road to self contentment is best traveled alone. Once you get to your happy place others will be there to greet you

Wow, I LOVE this. Good words to remember.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are stronger than you know! You can do this, you know you can. You will get to the other side.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3089 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
ladies_first
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The road to self contentment is best traveled alone. Once you get to your happy place others will be there to greet you.

True, true, true!

fireproof, you speak of "mountains" and "battles."

Perhaps if you shared the real problem at hand, then you'd find you're not alone, you're not the first, and someone who's been through a similar situation could provide some helpful perspective.


"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway

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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 1:05 AM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all

I was slower today but I know I will conquer that mountain. I think self doubt will be my biggest challenge.

I will focus on what I can do and let the rest go.

Thank you for your advice and encouragement.


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