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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, August 9th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just to build on a couple of things: there is a blood test for HPV; it's very inaccurate. Most docs prefer visual and swab ( actually, mine uses a bristly brush).

And yes, HPV can cause oral/head/neck cancer--but not just in men. Oral STDs are rampant--my first STD ( wow, that sounds like a twisted baby book entry) was oral trich. I was VERY ill for over a year before it appeared on Pap. (It does not respond to typical antibiotics given for sore throats.) Because the OW was a hooker, my doc is hypervigilant about my throat infections now; high risk partner=high risk of other nasty sequelae.

BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm happy to hear your husband went with you and has been providing the support he needs to give you to overcome this mess.

I went to a clinic for my birth control pills when I was in college and didn't have health insurance. I was very pleased with the care I received.

BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, August 10th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got tested by the gyn office. I got an internal exam, they do the pap smear and that can detect the warts one that can cause cervical cancer and maybe a few others, then I got blood work done. So I think I was tested for all STD's including HIV and Hepatitis.

BS (me) - 44
WH - 46
DD - July 1, 2013
2 daughters, 14 and 10

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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry to hear this. I am so sorry you are here along with the rest of us. I know this is the most awful and loney time in anyone's life.

I just went on Friday (2 days post DDay) for my full STD panel and Doc was very compassionate. Full blood and swabs done as well as PAP, WS also went and did blood and urine samples. I just hope I do not get a call, if I don't hear back it's all clean. In late March I know I was clean for blood bourne illness as I gave blood which is screened but I guess something could be missed, let's hope not.

I started getting BV infections 5 years ago and now I know why; that's when the cheating started. Technically it's not considered an STD but a lot of woemn get it if their partner sleeps around. Take care of yourself, take time for yourself. Do not blame yourself, this was all brought on by selfishness on your WS's part. WS and I are doing MC as well as doing a TON of talking on our own, more than we have communicated in at least 5 years. I look forward to each day, sometimes terrified by what might happen but also hopeful that things can and hopefully will get better. ((Hugs)) I really hope you are OK.

DDay # 1, Aug 7, 2013
DDay #2, Oct 30, 2013
Married(if you can call it that):12 years in November
Together since 1998, thought I knew him
"You can try to suck me dry, but there's nothing left to suck"

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