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User Topic: Every BS should go running if they can!
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm shocked - shocked! - that the mods have let this thread continue.

Not only is it an over-generalization - it's wrong.

Cycling is way more fun than running, IMO.

See, that 'IMO' makes all the diff....

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DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


yeah...the word doesn't make sense to me...I never got it.

I prefer to meander

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
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Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like to say that the rage of infidelity fuels my running. After D-day I got serious about running. With every step I took, I beat the pavement with hatred. Last fall I ran the fastest marathon of my life.
I was severaly underweight all last year...but knew if I didn't run, people were probably going to die.
Now that I'm 9 months out from D being finalized, I'm not running with so much hatred...once in a while...but mostly I run with hope. I run because it symbolizes my freedom. I am a healthy weight now and running faster than I did last year. I am on track to qualify for the Boston Marathon this fall.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I cannot run after 2 ACL reconstructions and a 3rd in my future, but I did elliptical and stairmaster. 45 -60 minutes of cardio and I feel like a human.

DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also read this as run for your life

I've never liked running, but spinning helped me through the worst of the betrayal. It was early in the morning (5:30am), the room was dark, and I could cry if I felt like it--all while spinning my butt off (literally and figuratively )

I no longer have the need to burn off rage, but I've kept up exercising and have kept off most of the weight.

I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i went for a run today. About 6 years ago I started running and I ran for over a year. I completed a few 5ks, a 10k, and then in 2009 I ran 3 half marathons.

Then babies and pregnancy keep me from running.

Today I did go out for a 2 mile run. It was slow and painful but felt better than I have in weeks.

Take that skank! ( I also hit the punching bag sometimes too.)

I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I lift weights every other day. I generally only run if someone or something's chasing me

BS: Me
WH: Husband
One daughter - 22 months
Married 11.5 years
2.5 false R's.
Status: Divorcing.
You can't pick up a turd by the clean end. Time to flush the toilet.

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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Running also helps clear a hangover.

Let's be honest we have all probably drank more in this period of our life than ever.

For me, I went from one drink a week to one every night in the early days.

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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used to run but since my WS is a marathoner, running is one more thing ruined for me. Bike riding, esp. on outdoor trails, has made up for it. Nothing fuels lifting weights better though than the rage one has toward a WS.

Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
DDay: Jan/13
Divorced and Done!--7/13

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Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ran first half marathon in months after d day. I have always run, but also lots of cross training. Running gave me time to clear my thoughts and hear myself. Like another poster said, that can be scary and tough.

When I find myself avoiding journaling, yoga and running, I know I am hiding from a truth that I don't want to live with or am not ready to act upon....

[This message edited by OnAnIsland at 1:32 AM, August 12th (Monday)]

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D-day 2: 3/28/2013

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