May have saved my marriage! I printed it out and left it on the counter for my WH. After the day we had had I didn't think he was ready to do what he needed to do and did not think he'd read it. He got home from work, ask me what it was and immediately sat down and read through the entire thing. All 10 pages of it!
When he was done he looked at me with misty eyes and asked "do you think I don't already know all this?" I told him no, that I didn't think he was ready.
Since that moment he has been absolutely wonderful. He has done everything the "packet", as he calls it, has said to do. He understands.
I hope this lasts and is not a false R. I am hopeful, but weary.