Topic: SO is gone
Member # 6010
| Posted: 12:11 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013|
He moved out yesterday. I was a total chickenshit and left while he was here. Just couldn't handle it.
Thankfully it didn't take too long.
What bothers me most is his total silence. It's been all business-y NC from him since Monday. Not even any attempt to talk to me about why he decided to do this, or how he feels about it now. I guess I shouldn't expect that, but WTF is it with guys who don't feel the need to explain their actions??? I hate that, I feel like I could learn something from this but without the info from him I'm stumbling around in the dark.
Freaking pisses me off.
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Posts: 4164 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: eastern PA
Member # 34697
| Posted: 2:33 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013|
Posts: 3607 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 16891
| Posted: 3:54 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013|
I'm sorry you are going through this.
[This message edited by burnt_toast at 3:54 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]
It is what it is.
Posts: 4681 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Quelque part
Member # 30742
| Posted: 4:09 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013|
(((Eranda))), sorry. Misery loves company. I will join you, total silence here as well after getting dumped out of the blue yesterday, no sweet phone calls, no loving texts - nothing.
I am combating it with deep cleaning and reorganizing my kitchen and the thought of a nice bottle of wine and a good movie tonight.
Hang in there.
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Posts: 1091 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Member # 37946
| Posted: 4:40 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013|
[This message edited by Survivor3512 at 4:40 PM, August 11th (Sunday)]
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Member # 31528
| Posted: 7:45 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013|
There are still good times to be had.
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Member # 209
| Posted: 10:40 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013|
Ugh, I'm sorry.
WTF is it with guys who don't feel the need to explain their actions??? I hate that, I feel like I could learn something from this but without the info from him I'm stumbling around in the dark.
I hope at some point he will be willing to say something if you are still ready to hear it at that point.
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Posts: 25486 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
Member # 22722
| Posted: 10:57 PM, August 11th (Sunday), 2013|
Hugs to you Eranda (((((Eranda)))))
Breaking up sucks. I can see getting out while he was packing his shit and moving out. Makes total sense to me. I wouldn't call it chickenshit, I'd call it self-care.
Try not to project your thoughts into the silence. He isn't you, doesn't think like you, doesn't act like you. Don't put thoughts into the void that are really your thoughts and not his. Let it be. I suggest not overthinking it and just letting it be a mystery. Like, whatever.
What you can learn about this dude is that you are better off without him.
BW-me 48, WH-him 46 Passive/Aggressive Narcissistic Destroyer of my entire life.
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