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User Topic: 11 months out...moments of shock...ignorance is gone..
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

mercheur...thanks, glad I am some comfort to you. Your expreince resonates with me...I feel moved to follow your progress.

Sisoon...dang, I wish we were neighbors. Appreciate your insights.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3947 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Angel177
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Member # 37274
Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Blakesteele I love your posts. We have similar ddays and I'm usually in a similar place to you. Your posts make me feel like what I'm going though is normal. Sometimes I feel crazy because everyone else goes on with their life well I'm stuck with this pain. Thanks for your thought provoking posts!!


Me:BS
Him:WH
D-Day Sept. 14/12...R started Dec. 3/12
Together-10 years Married-5 years
Daughter-3
Son-13 months (died July 2, 2014)
Baby #3 due Feb. 2015
4 month EA and 4 month EA/PA in 2012 with my "friend"

Posts: 249 | Registered: Oct 2012
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, August 13th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Angel177)))

It IS comforting. It is normalizing a very abnormal reality.

Sleep well. Peace to all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3947 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
UKlady
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Member # 39058
Default  Posted: 2:55 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have found all the thought, comments and musings on here helpful. I'm 7 months out, just returned from a lovely holiday with WH during which I felt the pain so intense again like it was D-Day all over again.

Hearing it said that the WS 'didn't do it to the BS' helps - I've been using that as a mantra for a couple of days now.

7 months out, really good quality MC and IC for WH which is getting to the bottom of his FOO issues and turning his whole sense of self around BUT that stabbing, gut wrenching pain when I think about what he did.... I'm praying for the day it stops hurting so much.


Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.

Posts: 153 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Uklady)))

I hear you. Had a fun family outing last night going to a pro baseball game....great game, beer, daughters first game ever, beautiful night, wife being nice, weather great, every aspect was close to perfect....and yet, I had a couple rounds of that intense pain you speak of.

Silent prayers and a quick SI check on my phone kept my pain from derailing my enjoyment of the outing.

This site is comforting....but doesn't take away the raw pain our WS invited into our marriage.

God be with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 9:09 AM, August 14th (Wednesday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3947 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Topic Posts: 25
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