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User Topic: He changed his password
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He changed his password to the cell phone account. There were a few things that I needed to check on and this morning I couldn't log in. I tried the four different passwords that I know of and they didn't work. This from a man that says "I'm not doing anything any more so you can just trust me." Yeah...whatever


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yikes. Not good. I'm sorry, (((simplydevastated))).


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8683 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
struggling3
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've had this happen to me and I know what a tailspin you can get into. Ask immediately...you will feel so much better with it out in the open. I hope it is a simple and explainable reason and he provides you with the new one. If he is serious about keeping you on the healing path...he will. Good luck.


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 28, 25, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 314 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's never provided me with any passwords. In the situation I'm in, I could ask and he might give it to me, but then there's nothing stopping him from changing it again.

He knew I was in one email account of his and he changed the password the next day. I have to keep everything I find out quiet. Basically, I'm just building my "information pile."

It sucks because it just fortifies my thoughts that he's an ass.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
TxsT
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why on earth are you keeping things quiet? Do you fear he will leave, lie to you more, etc? Your snooping is normal and an expected reflex action of the hurt your husband has caused.

If you don't come out and say I want access to these things for these reasons, you won't ever get to the end. You will never stop looking, and he will continue to think of ways to deceive you.

Personally, his actions would be screaming to me "get the hell away from him". They show me he is continuing his behaviour. I would be quickly coming to the realization I didn't want to live with such a person.

T


Me: BS 50
Hubby: WH 53
Together: 32 years
Married: 25 years 09/10/2013
2 boys: 23&21
Dday: 09/11/2012
A length: 4+ years (yes years)
status: Ongoing Reconciliation :o)

Through thick and thin we will survive but he gets only one shot at it!


Posts: 605 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: CDN
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T, I'm keeping it quiet for the simple reason I'm done fighting about it. I could lay out every possible truth and explain every possible thing to him and he won't see it. He is the classic "victim." He has told us that we treat him badly, we don't appreciate him etc... Then he goes behind my back to his online friends and bashes me and DS10.

I think at this point I've either reached indifference or I'm just tired.

Am I happy that I have to keep checking on him? Am I happy that he changes his passwords? Hell no! I've stopped asking him questions because he was getting annoyed that I wasn't getting over it already.

I know he'll lie to me more. I've learned how to read his face when he does lie.

Believe me, I don't want to be here. I have a plan, and as soon as I'm back on my feet I'm leaving. My continued snooping is, for lack of a better word, self-preservation. I feel that I need to know what is going under my own roof, and because he'll lie to me about everything I feel that the only way I'll find out the truth is if I snoop.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
sparklezombie
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, August 12th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I totally understand. I've been there and it sucks. Sorry you're going through it too


BS: Me
WH: Husband
One daughter - 22 months
Married 11.5 years
2.5 false R's.
Status: Divorcing.
You can't pick up a turd by the clean end. Time to flush the toilet.

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