In haste and anger I deleted the few emails I had she wrote.
I have about 10 that my husband wrote to her. But that doesn't incriminate her...it incriminates my husband.
I have phone records that go back 18 months, 3 months of texts--courtesy of verizon. Obviously there is proof there that she dialed my husband from her number. Should I include this ?
I am thinking of doing an email to him. I don't have the email yet but pretty sure I could find it since he has a facebook account.
Do you just be brief...my husband had an affair with your wife for 3 years ? or should say how much I am hurt by this--include feelings-- or what ?
Married 27 years. Together 29.
3 children 24, 21, 14
OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC.
Don't email him...OW knows you know..so she is watching his accounts..and his phone..waiting for you to contact him, so she can intercept any message you try to leave. Can you call him at work,so she can't intercept the call? If not,get a cheap throw away phone and call him until he answers.
Be kind. Tell him who you are,who your WH is,and that they had an affair. Tell him you have proof, and you will send him the evidence.
Stick to the facts..don't go off on his WW...his instinct will be to protect her. But as unemotional as possible,but kind,and to the point.
This man deserves to know the truth..Im glad you're going to tell him.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
No they are gone. I found a few initially in the trash and told my husband who never again let them there. he always double deleted them after that.
I don't know where he works. he is a musician I think and just has assorted gigs. I don't know his band name. Otherwise he just stays at home. I don't want to go to their home. That would be too crazy for me. I read the one thread on here where the OW went to the BS home and I really feel that was horrible and I wouldn't want to be like that.
I wouldn't go to her house..you never know how she may react and you could be hurt.
[This message edited by confused615 at 10:51 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)]
Back in December of 2012 when it was d-day #3, I said in an email to her that if she contacted my husband again I would call her husband and that I had his cell, email and all contact info. (I did not have any of it I just said this to scare her). She of course responded with anger of --how dare she even suggest that you touch my marriage! Anyway, of course she called my H right away like 20 times when I was with him...he apperead to be like, ohh this needs to end etc...because he was with me. |But of course, after that day, it never ended. So it continued from that day in December 2012 until June 25 2013--the last known contact I have for sure...so he answer is yes...they both think that I have all the info on her H already. BUt, after watching the emails etc for this long (more than 6 months, do you think she will be as vigilant in doing so still 6 months later?) I mean, by now it may actually go through right? and she might not notice. Like I said, I know he has a facebook. Is that a better route then ?
Since you can see his facebook, maybe you could send a message to someone who appears to be his best friend..or his mother and tell them who you are and that you need to speak with him. The name of his band isn't mentioned on his facebook anywhere? Can you send him a friend request..or better yet..have a friend(that OW wouldn't know) and have them send him a friend request? Maybe if you are his friend on facebook you can see more of his info?
Im so sorry..3 ddays all with the same OW..taking the A underground..all of this is just so terribly cruel.
[This message edited by confused615 at 11:35 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)]
it doesn't say his band name on facebook. Its a very basic page. Just a pic of him with a guitar. It doesn't appear he uses facebook much. Just his wife and his mom and OW's mom and OW's family are his friends.
perhaps this is his perosnal one and he has another facebook for his band.
Dday 4 was in June? Then..yeah...she is watching his facebook and everything else in case you attempt contact.
The fact that your WH isn't helping you in this is concerning. Im worried the A is still underground.
Big hugs,honey. You sound strong..stay strong.
Can you post in the Investigative forum? If you start a thread there,asking how to track this BH down,Im sure someone can help you figure something out.
[This message edited by confused615 at 11:48 AM, August 13th (Tuesday)]