Date, talk, create that intimacy, but no sex for while, its possibly hindering in this case.

And, focus on you and your DD. Get an apartment, try not to appear needy.

The other thing, that to me is very important, is children really need their Moms. Unless you have some drug habit or are abusive, I don't think it's healthy for you NOT to be in the home with your daughter. She should be everyone's top priority.

This may sound weird coming from a BS, but in everything you've posted over the months it has seemed to me that your BH is actually acting like a Wayward. Are you *SURE* he ended it with his "friend"?

And also agree with others - NO MORE SEX and get your own apartment. You've come a long way.

I don't know if I have said this before but I do have custody of our DD, he has her two and a half days a week and she is with me the rest of the time at my parents house. Not the best situation, but that is why I am going to try to get an apartment for her and I. Unfortunately it won't happen right away cuz I need to save money, but I am hoping that will be easier once I do get a new job.
Samantha I agree that he is cake eating and have actually stopped having sex with him and being his booty call, cuz I know that's basically all it is. I guess I went along with it at first cuz I knew he would be upset if I didn't, but I have realized it isn't helping anything...and like you said is possibly making things worse.

I am still hoping for R, but until he decides what he is going to do I am going to focus on me and my DD!