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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lots of advice on that website is obsolete. I had the abdominal incision. Hurts the first 2-3 days. I bought a car and drove over 500 miles within a week. Drove myself to the dr appts for fu.

Pillow, candy, something to read or watch, take your pain meds the first couple of days. You will do great!!


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6605 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
openedupmyeyes
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Cool  Posted: 1:02 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ringing the hysterectomy bell.Freedom sister! Freedom! I had mine in my early 30's. They took it all vaginally. No outer scars. My prayers and thoughts will be with you. Its all been said so no use repeating it. Get plenty of rest. You'll do fine.

My grand mother,mom,me,oldest daughter all have survived and thrived :you will too.:

[This message edited by openedupmyeyes at 1:07 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)]


Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 765 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used the sturdy step ladder from my kitchen and put it by my bed for support. It was great to have the handle to hold onto those first few days getting in and out of bed. Because it is made to be a step ladder - it was more balanced then using a hard-back kitchen chair.
that's a great idea. Make you get the kind that has the rubber grips on the feet, so it doesn't slide.

Yeah, I had forgotten about the raising yourself up to get out of bed. that will be hell the first few days of you have the full abdominal cut.

Also, make sure the doc tells you what to use for constipation. If you are taking painkillers, you WILL get constipated, and believe me, that is NOT something you want to deal with while recovering.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
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Posts: 7099 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yah don't worry about the driving thing, usually they will let you drive when you are off pain meds totally, or 2 weeks.

I had a OB/GYN that took care of A LOT of nurses, and he was very hard core about the not working until 6 weeks, because he had 2 girls blow out their pelvic floor by going back to work too early. As a Nurse in a hospital setting you can say no heavy lifting but if it's emergent, you do what you have always done. Take care of the patient.

Enjoy the down time, rest relax, read, let friends feed you, and enjoy it. I had my time off in Sept, early Oct, what a beautiful time of year to be off work. I spent many a day sitting on my porch reading. That sounds so nice.... Hmmmm, wonder what else I can have removed....


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8709 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
hopefullromantic
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hands down the best thing I ever did.

Mine (about 7 yrs ago) was done vaginally, so no noticeable incision and was home the next day. Recuperation was fast. I would have preferred to have gone back to work the next week, I felt so good. Wasn't supposed to lift anything for a while so that was annoying because I had to take my H grocery shopping with me.

One of my ovaries was already done and shriveled up, and the doc left the other. I think the other has only recently gone, so menopause has been almost unnoticeable.

While in the hospital I preferred the light cramping to the meds, which made me nauseous, so I quit them right away. Really, it was no big deal at all.


It's not really a fairy tale 'till the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain

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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wondering how you are doing and sending hugs.


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

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Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
inhishands55
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Default  Posted: 12:15 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another best thing I ever done and it would have been done earlier if I had had the right doctor...I had a 4lb fibroid...They couldn't even find my right ovary for the cyst on it..Had to have the shot to put me in early menopause because of the bleeding..My hemoglobin was down to 8.8...When it got back up to 10 they decided to schedule my surgery...

It took me a little longer to heal..I was cut through my old C-section scar...Up and down...Make sure you get some Colace for constipation and you will do fine and keep up with the pain..Enjoy your down time, you won't get it again...

Take care and know you are among friends during this time....


Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
truthsetmefree
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Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just an update...

Came out of surgery Thursday @ 4pm. She was able to do it all laparoscopic and I have three incisions. She didnt say she founf endo (which was really surprising to me) but she did say both ovaries were "really sickly" so those came out along with my uterus. Cervix was in good shape/position so it was left.

Fairly intense pain once in recovery but the morpheine pump calmed most of it down. However I did have pretty rough nausea - which in turn caused me not to be able to eat - which then meant I couldn't transition to my "take home" painkillers. All this o say - they kept me a second night.

I did get a shot of phenegin (sp) which supposedly is the "big stuff" and the nausea has mostly been gone. Percocet is hat they are prescribing me and it is controlling the pain so long as I keep in front of it. I'm anticipating being released this morning.

Thanks again for the info and encouragement. Overall thus hasn't been bad and base on these reports I am looking forward to the rest of this being oh so worth it.


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had everything removed, uterus, ovaries, cervix along with a complex endometrial cyst. I was also 5 months post giving birth to my son, a troubled and complicated pregnancy. It was a hell of a recovery for me, I was 36 at the time.

So, I'm not sure how old you are, but if you have lost your ovaries, are you going to take estrogen replacement? That has been the last battle ground for me since I was young when I had the surgery. The hot flashes have plagued me since, and some problems with "low estrogen". I've tried pills, patches, rings and have none have worked perfectly. I'm terrified of no estrogen and losing my want/need/ability to have great sex (due to dryness)

But, overall, the best damn thing I could have done for myself!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4185 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
truthsetmefree
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm 45 and planning on taking hormone replacements. The dr put me on an estradiol patch yesterday and I'm guessing will likely give me a prescription to fill when discharged. However, I've done little research to know what is the best/safest method to replace hormones after a hysterectomy. I do know based on my blood work earlier this year that I showed no signs of being close to entering menopause.

I do have great oncerns about replacement therapy and had hoped to leave one ovary (pretty much knew one was shot) but also seeing how neither one was healthy I'm now hoping that I can stabalize my moods with a replacement.

I would love to hear further about hormone replacement and what has/hasn't worked.


Posts: 7682 | Registered: May 2005
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

T/J
I'm terrified of no estrogen and losing my want/need/ability to have great sex (due to dryness)

cmego, my ovaries died sometime in the past 2 years. My blood work shows "Postmenopausal" (not even a borderline or "perimenopausal" for me ) and there has been no decrease in drive or desire. Maybe an increase, if I'm honest.

As for the dryness, we've become pretty regular customers at the adult store and there are some great lube products out there.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2780 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
confused girl
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had my hyster years ago, best thing I ever did.

I have been on HRT ever since. I tried a couple different ones but I had some dryness and my sex drive seemed diminished. Dr. put me on estratest, which has a very slight amount of testosterone in it. He explained the reason why it would work, none of which I can remember or really care. It did the trick, and I have been on it ever since.

Just talk to your doc and you will come up with something that is perfect for you.


Love always hopes.

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woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Truth, I'm glad to "hear" your surgery went so well. As far as the hormone replacement therapy (HRT), I knew that I would be having it going into my surgery. I had had a previous illness that usually leads to osteoporosis, so my GYN was worried about bone loss. I actually woke up from the hysterectomy with an HRT patch on my hip! I think I wore a patch for about three years and never had any adverse side effects, and my bone density has stayed good. However, having the HRT patch did NOT prevent all the symptoms of "surgically-induced menopause", even though I was only 43. Once the overies are gone and the natural supply of estrogen dries up, you will probably begin to experience at least some of the normal symptoms of menopause - all at once. I had hot flashes and night sweats. You might want to talk with your DR about dealing with those.


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movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to hear it went fairly well for you...laproscopic is the way to go...much "easier" recovery when you don't have the abdominal incision...
Take it easy, rest and relax, let others do for you and heal well....HUGS


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

Posts: 4845 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: Ontario
openedupmyeyes
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So am glad that you came through like a champ. We knew you would. Get plenty of rest. When you and your dr.
decide on hrt , take the least amount to handle your symptoms. Stay diligent with mammograms!! You'll find what works for you. anything I can do to help..... just pm me. Good luck!


Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 765 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
inhishands55
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Default  Posted: 12:59 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you came through your surgery so well..Keep ahead of the pain is the best thing...

I had my hysterectomy at the age of 49..That has been 8 yrs ago...I don't take any hormone replacement due to me having a blood clot in my foot that ended up in my left lung..I have had very few hot flashes and once in a while night sweats, not to the point of having to change my clothes or anything...

I was told we, women had estrogen in the fat in our bodies...That is one reason my fibroids kept growing even though I was close to menopause...I won't take estrogen either because of breast cancer running in my mother's family..That is what killed my mother...

Hope you continue to improve and enjoy your down time...


Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was young when I had a total hysterectomy, 36. I am about to turn 43. The hot flashes have been bad for years now, even on high doses of estrogen. The best type of replacement (for me) was the estrogen ring you change every 3 months. But, of course, I ended up with an allergy to the ring. So, back to oral medications. I can't do patches because of adhesive allergy. Oral is all that is left for me at this point and I still have at least 3 hot flashes during the day and night sweats.

My Mom had estrogen positive breast cancer. I am fastidious with my mammograms and discuss with my doc at every visit. She points out that at my age, I SHOULD have estrogen in my body, therefore no reason to not take hormone replacement. Plus, with trying to cope with everything on my plate, I need the hormones to help. The LAST think I want to be dealing with is full blown menopause right now.

It took a few years for the estrogen stores to deplete out of my body and the other problems to hit (namely the vaginal dryness). Yes, I have lube...for whenever I meet someone new worth having sex with. No decrease in desire, just the side effect of needing lube. I also tear easily (I have dated one man seriously since my S/D). I remember thinking...WTH? Why am I bleeding? I can't have a period! Then I realized I had torn "down there" after some...errr....lengthy sessions. Lots of lube. Need lots of lube! Thinning tissue is also a side effect. But again, took years for this to happen.

It is kinda cool to "be a perfect woman!", I can have sex any time, anywhere without worrying about a period or getting pregnant! Now, if I could just find a good man!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4185 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Truth - Glad to hear all went smoothly, and the nausea after is pretty common, esp with the pain pumps. Phenergen is what they gave you and that shit is the BOMB!!
Since your ovaries came out you will go into menopause now. The concerns with that are what others have mentioned, including bone density, and desire/dryness. For some women this is an issue not so much for others. If you have a family history of breast cancer please consider trying to do it without hormones. I have a dear friend whose mother died from breast cancer, and she ended up having a totaly hysterectomy at 44, and she didn't take any hormones, and the only real side effect she has had is it's even harder to loose weight than prior to. No hot flashes, no bone loss, no issues with sex.
If you do use hormones the patch works quite well for most women.

Hope you continue to have a smooth recovery.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8709 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
truthsetmefree
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all for holding my hand through this. You have been such a comfort.

Yesterday was the day from hell. Pain, nausea, swelling, and a fever that kept spiking over 101.5. Just when I had reached the point of calling the doctor I could feel it break. Still running low grade fever but I feel so much better. Not having trouble with constipation so I've decided I'm going to just stay on the meds - at least through tomorrow. I think it was the trying to only take them "as necessary" that caused all the problems yesterday.

The patch is Climara which is bio-identical. That much makes me feel somewhat more comfortable. There is no history of breast cancer on either side of my family. What is confusing to me is that my testosterone always reports high. Since the only replacement I'm having is basically estrogen what should I expect from having all my testosterone gone now? (I'm assuming my ovaries produced it too, yes?)


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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get thee back to doctor with ANY grade fever! At least call. Infection can make a moderately simple recovery a LOT harder.
I also wanted to chime in that I had some very unpleasant dreams while they were regulating my hormones. I was assured that it was normal but it might help to be mentally prepared.
Also, in the event of bad hot flashes, I kept two VERY large cups of ice next to the bed. One cup had ice water and the other just ice. Post surgical hot flashes can be rather hateful. A huge gulp of ice water when it would wake me up seemed to help cool me back off.
(And yes, it was the best thing I ever did. (hot flashes and nightmares be damned)


M-8 yrs together 11
Me-45 BW
Him-49-WH
D-Day 10-10-2008
In R

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