I was directed to this article by a fellow friend on SI. I hope it resonates with some of you, as it describes the impossible reality that is "romantic love" (*ahem*...an affair, for example) and the unrealistic expectations we put on our marriage. Makes me wonder if a little space is what I and my WH need...
Here's something that jumped out at me, in terms of our point of view as the BS:
"Disappointment is a loss of innocence. And that loss can actually wake us up, if we are willing to stick with the situation. There is a choicelessness that grows when you can appreciate the other person for who they are and give up trying to make them fit the image of your fantasy."