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User Topic: Update on bachelor party...and married
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We worked out the bachelor party issues. I came home from work, and he talked to me IMMEDIATELY about his shirt thing (I didn't even have to ask). He didn't want to wear it, and one of his groomsmen had a mini-drunk-meltdown about it, so he finally gave in. He said he was afraid I would be upset, but he didn't interact with or talk to any of the people who signed the shirt (and it was confirmed by my dad and two other groomsmen). He apologized, and I like how upfront he was about the whole thing. We talked briefly, about how I don't like the mentality he had, "I didn't want to, but so and so was drunk and I wanted to avoid a fight," and presented my side (what if your groomsman was drunk and insisting you go to a strip club? Insisting you get a hooker in a hotel room? You need to have your own boundaries and be comfortable enough with your friends to say no), and overall we had a good conversation and I feel much better.

WE GOT MARRIED on Saturday, and the wedding was absolutely beautiful. We did a short stay at a local lodge, and I am back at work today. :)

I think we started a trend...one of his groomsmen got engaged to his girlfriend the day after our wedding. They plan on getting married next year. I already talked to WH- he will NOT be attending that bachelor party. He said he doesn't want to and the fact that we live out of town makes that an easy thing for him to get out of. :)

Just wanted to update.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


Posts: 840 | Registered: Jan 2013
Tred
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best of luck to you two! Congrats!


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3769 | Registered: Dec 2011
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad you worked out the bachelor party issues. It sounds like he not only listened to your side of the story, but also heard you. That's some awesome communication right there.

Congratulations on your marriage!!! I wish you many happy years together.


"I would rather take a punch than not give you a shot. I'd rather find out who you are than who you're not."

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really well-done on the communications front.

Congratulations on your marriage! Wishing you a lifetime of happiness.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24440 | Registered: Aug 2011
Skan
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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dameia
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations on the marriage!


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

One should rather die than be betrayed. There is no deceit in death. It delivers precisely what it has promised. Betrayal, though ... betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~Steven Deitz


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