if you aren't friends with the OW's H's sister, it most likely went to her "other" folder, which most people don't know about.
P.S. send me some names and any other info you have via pm, I'm pretty good at this kind of stuff. D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.