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User Topic: Single parents of special needs kids
Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm on a page on Facebook for "Single Mothers who have Children with Autism." My son has Aspergers, and doesn't have as severe symptoms as some parents have to deal with. I liked this woman's post today. She's got a great sense of humour. So, the following, is her post and her "ad" for a dating site:

One of the most difficult things I face in parenting children with special needs is being a single parent. Beyond my desire for companionship, to talk or vent with someone who can relate to the stress in my life (because it is their life too!) and for a snuggle buddy, it really comes down to the simple fact that “two are better than one”. My boys are my priority, so if I get involved it has to be with someone who loves them wholeheartedly and will share the load, to be blunt. Of course, I am such a catch that men will be knocking down my door when they find out I am available. After all, dating sites claim there are millions of men out there looking for women just like me. You know, they go for the full-figured, going-on-50 type of gal! Okay, to be more realistic, maybe they will see beyond my flaws and actually go out on a date with me… but when they meet my children, will they go running for the hills? So, I have decided to let my myriad of potential suitors know what they face upfront while also finding out what skills they have to offer. Thus, I have written the following “ad” to place on those wonderful dating websites.

"Do you enjoy back “massages” from little feet kicking you as you sleep? Is your hearing poor enough that constant LOUD noise doesn’t bother you? Do you savor a good debate… about everything you say? Are you fluent in whine? Have words really never hurt you? Is changing a five-year-old’s poopy diapers the highlight of your day? Can you run fast while yelling STOP at the top of your lungs? Do you know at least one form of safe physical restraint? Have you honed your advocacy skills lately? Does the thought of never facing “empty-nest syndrome” give you warm fuzzies? Are you good at installing deadbolts and window locks… repairing holes in walls? Do you enjoy having company in the bathroom? Can you sleep soundly while a child’s body is wedged underneath yours, yet also sleep lightly enough to waken at the sound of little footsteps? Are your reflexes lightning-fast enough to duck when an object is thrown at your head from close proximity? Do you concentrate well in the presence of repetitive annoying sounds? Does your personal library include books on special needs laws, advocacy, IEPs, augmented communication, sensory issues and other topics not found in the average collection? Will your shoulder and elbow joints withstand the weight of a child going suddenly limp while holding your hand? Can you remain cool during meltdowns? Are you undaunted at the prospect of losing friends who cannot tolerate your children? Do you have enough energy to be a father even though you are old enough to be a grandfather? Do you LOVE children… I mean REALLY ADORE them? If you answered yes to the last question and I haven’t scared you away, then you may be the man for us! In return, you will receive abundant joy at making a huge difference in a child’s life, delight when your children get sooooo excited just because you walked through the door, hero status, a special pass to go to the front of the line at Disneyland, a full cardio workout every day (why pay for a gym membership?), tons of little boy hugs and kisses and undying affection from yours truly…plus the BEST back massages while you sleep! So…hit me up?


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

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okaynow
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Default  Posted: 11:46 PM, August 14th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great sense of humor.

FWIW, there ARE men out there who will rise to the challenges she described. Amazing, but true. I speak from experience because that's what my SO did. SO, and people like him, are truly gifts from heaven. (BTW, not only did he embrace both my DD and me, but we are getting married next month!)


Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

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Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 12:55 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okaynow, that is truly heartening to hear. Congratulations!


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2514 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Humor and truth mixed together is amazing

My oldest is ADHD/OCD/SPD which looks like Aspie...and she can be a handful. More guys seem much more bothered by my gay ex than my dd. Boy, I sound like a catch right now!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4142 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Dadtryingtocope
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Cmego isn't that written about me? Oh I guess that's because I'm a single dad raising an Aspie.

If I talk to anyone who I might possibly date, I always offer up my son's condition early in conversation. I believe in full disclosure AND I want to hear/read their reaction. Because if you haven't experienced it, you are in for an education and a ride you may not be ready for.


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

Posts: 522 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: PA
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, August 15th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Because if you haven't experienced it, you are in for an education and a ride you may not be ready for.
Amen! I'm not dating yet... but when I get there (I dropped the "if" recently), my DD will come up fairly early in the conversation.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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