My goodness your story sounds almost exactly like mine 5 years ago except I had just given birth to my 6th baby!!!
I wish I had found this site back then because i did everything wrong. I went as far as becoming friends with my H's "friend" which was all a stupid ploy once I found the hundreds of text messages and calls. It took us moving away and changing his cell number but we NEVER dealt with it and he wasn't sorry and didn't change. Look where it got me 5 years later.
My advice is to read as much as you can in the healing library and take care of yourself and that sweet innocent baby growing inside of you. These sweet babies are SUCH blessings and miracles and deserve a happy healthy mommy!!!!!!!
Hang in there sweetie!!!!!!!! (((((HUGE HUGS)))))Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 35
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-5
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013
Finally this is R 8/14/13
"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".