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User Topic: Fumes are no longer an issue--I was fired
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Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Hope you find something better real soon!

Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Depends if it is an employment at will state, which, I just looked and NY is. Basically that means they can terminate employees at will without grounds for cause. (My HR is old and rusty....)

What I can't remember is if you can file unemployment after only a week...I"m sure it varies by state, so at least worth checking it out.

me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings

Posts: 4180 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry.

Sending you job hunting mojo.

Me (BS)47
XH (WS)53
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two sons 21 and 23 in college

Posts: 1462 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Northern Michigan
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, AZ. I'm sure you'll find something soon. You come across as a serious asset to any employer lucky enough to get you.

Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth

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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

damn S-AZ! I am so sorry. They are pretty damn pathetic!

Hope a perfect job is around the corner b/c this one barely sounded like a decent job.

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler

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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh no. That's awful, Sad. I'm so sorry.

I suspect they had someone else they wanted more on the hook for the job who just came through this week, but then, I'm paranoid.

Sounds plausible to me. Or, since they seem clueless, maybe they liked the idea of an office manager, then decided they didn't like having to pay for one.

I'm with gma. I hope you get a much better job with a rival company! Or an even better one in some fascinating field. I'm glad you're still happy about relocation. And on a positive note - it should be easier to find another job there now that you're on the spot.

I really, really hope you won't have to job-hunt for very long.

Edited to clarify:

My "Sounds plausible" referred to the firing theory, NOT to the paranoia one.

[This message edited by Cally60 at 5:27 PM, August 17th (Saturday)]

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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those rats! After that huge move you made!

Sending you mojo to find a way better job soon.

BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTF!! I guess it's a blessing in disguise. I know you'll find something great!


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so sorry.

I wish you mega job hunting mojo.

Me: Finding my Sunlight
Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

Posts: 1252 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: a state of consciousness
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending job mojo your way, and a wish for the karma bus to make a stop by their establishment.


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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, that sucks!

Some people are just horrible people. I'm really sorry for you that you've lost your employment so suddenly, especially after uprooting yourself to move there, but I'm certain you dodged a much bigger bullet not having to work for them any longer. People like that can do so much harm to you -- you are better off not having their toxic assholeyness fumes to breathe.

BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.

Posts: 1220 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all for the support; it means a lot to me.

I've got a plan of action--several phone calls to make; I've reinstated my job hunting email alerts; and I've joined a couple of meetups so I can get out of the apartment and meet people.

I've also got several books rolling around in my head that I've wanted to try to write. I'm not sure how to fit it in with job hunting, as that tends to consume me, but maybe this is the right time. We'll see.

I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20273 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
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Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry to hear this. I believe my friend's daughter may have attempted to be office manager at the same place! She had a strange ending there also. Good luck in your job search. It is a great place to live.

M 11, D 8/1/05- not soon enough!

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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good grief sad! How horrible! You must be incredibly strong. Something like that would send me off the rails.

I'm so sorry.

me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no expertise in unemployment benefits, but is it possible that you could qualify for benefits either from New York, or possibly Texas, because you only moved knowing you had this job, which you have now been terminated from?

It seems worth checking into just so you know for sure.

Though I'm sure you will find something soon!

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really sorry that happened. Sending good luck that you find a much better job really soon.

Choices, Chances, Changes.....You must make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change.

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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, Sad, bugger all! "Asshats" is too good a word for these sorry excuses for humans. I don't know NY or US labour law, but around here (Ontario, Canada), this is the law:

Eating Periods
An employee must not work for more than five hours in a row without getting a 30-minute eating period (meal break) free from work. However, if the employer and employee agree, the eating period can be split into two eating periods within every five consecutive hours. Together these must total at least 30 minutes. This agreement can be oral or in writing.

They may be breaking labour law by not allowing a break from your desk.

Age: 64..ummmmmmm,, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks

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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Sad

Same thing happened to me a few years back. I started working for a marketing company in sales, and had no sales experience. He said he would teach me, he never did. He also asked me to contact all my old clients and I had already told him before I was hired I wasn't going to go after the business of my former employer. Those people were off limits. He forgot we had that conversation and was VERY upset when I told him no.

We did a lot of presentations and he came to me once and asked me to do a presentation for a mosquito killing/ridding company. He wanted some quotes on hats, t shirts, fly swatters, etc .. and I did that for him. Everything he asked for I did for him. He came back and said I didn't think out of the box and didn't go above and beyond. I only gave him what he asked for. SIGH

so the next time he asked me to do a presentation I included all the things he asked and then added like 4 additional items. He came back and asked me why I could not FOLLOW DIRECTIONS.

Eventually I was fired. It was a relief. It was a witch hunt from the beginning. I ended up at a temp company making a lot less, but I kept the roof over my head and it was WORTH IT.

I'm sorry this happened BUT it sounds like you would have stayed (like me)and it sounded miserable!!!

P.S. the next job I got, I came in like a beaten dog. I hung my head, stayed quiet and waited to get fired. He destroyed my confidence. Well, I have become a rock star here. Promotions, confidence back. It will be ok!

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Because in my situation I didn't know if I was the OW at first or if I was being cheated on. Found I was being cheated on.

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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh man ... just saw this - sorry to hear about your predicament.

"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, August 20th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great to get away from those 'entrepreneurs'; lousy to be out of a job.

I don't know if a week is enough to qualify for unemployment, but they may owe you notice, which might be added to the week and qualify you.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
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