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User Topic: He's spending weekend
strawblond30
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My Ex has been out house 2 weeks and next weekend spending weekend at a wine trail doing a race with another woman. In 20 years we have never spent weekend alone and he knows I'm so into winery and things . I'm crying


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

Posts: 950 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: illinois
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((strawblond)))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 24728 | Registered: Aug 2011
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs to you. I know it will be a rough weekend for you, just do what you need to do to look after you.

{{{{hugs}}}}


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5405 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
AppleBlossom
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Strawblond, that seems a little thoughtless at best, and cruel at worst. It says something when they cant even find something original to do.

Just get through the weekend as best you can, treat yourself and at the end of it you will know that you can survive,

hugs to you.


Posts: 154 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Australia
whatamidoing
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't stop the mind movies of them in my bed and them at my restaurant and them on my boat with my son
And his knowing how I must be feeling and doing it anyway
What kind of monster can do this?
My daughter didn't go with them
She is 17 and she was home till today and now I am freaking
OW knows WH is telling me they are done but she is so easy that she opens her legs when he says oops
I have been holding out for real effort and remorse and thatis too hard for him
This web site has been saving my sanity for almost a year
Thanks


A friend can tell you things you don't want to tell yourself
_________________________________
BS Me 43
WH 42
DD June 2nd '12
LTA (2+ yrs)
False R Many times from July '12 till now forced D
OW: acting like she is the wife

Posts: 180 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Guelph
whatamidoing
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oops sorry typing onmy phone and pressed reply to wrong topic


A friend can tell you things you don't want to tell yourself
_________________________________
BS Me 43
WH 42
DD June 2nd '12
LTA (2+ yrs)
False R Many times from July '12 till now forced D
OW: acting like she is the wife

Posts: 180 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Guelph
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((strawblond30)))

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, August 17th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((strawblond))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
strawblond30
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Default  Posted: 2:27 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Am I wrong to be upset , is it perfectly ok that he is doing this? Am I a cry baby ?


Me 39, EX H 40 married 17 years infidelity on both parts . He a serial cheater. I cheated for revenge and ran home to brag. Or make Him mad. He confessed to more affairs after that. We are now divorced living apart . 3 children

Posts: 950 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: illinois
click4it
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Default  Posted: 3:41 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((straw))))))

No, you are not wrong to be upset and no you are not a crybaby. You are feeling your feelings. Is he right to do this? Well, to him its ok and to you its not. You are separated? and if figures, why not. Of course it doesn't seem right, why would it? But the point is that you are hurt and feeling the pain and you have every right to your feelings. I'm really sorry you are going through this.


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate when I hear about all my XWH is doing. I am NC as much as possible and NC=No new hurts.

You asked if you were wrong to feel this way. A normal man would not drag his wife thru what yours has done to you.

So many people on here say that false R are the hardest to take, or R that are going well and then they find someone else.

On the forums, there is a topic titled "I Can Relate". There is a section for Spouses of Sex Addicts. Please check out that category so many people's story on that heading are like yours.

You have been thru alot. All that your H has done to you is emotional abuse. Please see a counselor-- our domestic violence center sees my children and I for counseling for $1.00 a visit. (and emotional abuse IS domestic violence). THe counselors at a place like this have heard stories like yours over and over,,, in fact, my counselor there was married to a Sex Addict like your h. When she finally broke free is when she went back to school and now helps other women thru the chaos that their lives have become.

(((strawblond)))



me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2024 | Registered: Jan 2012
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a hard time concentrating, but if you can download/ or check out from the library a book called Love Must Be Tough. It addresses the same stuff you've been thru. Just the first 2 chapters got me to change my actions and fast! It's totally the opposite of loving your spouse so much that you get steamrolled. IT is a quick, easy read with out many words on a page -- the author must have known that reading overwhelmes us!

Someone else on this site read a book called "How high will you jump" and overnight you could literally see how he turned the whole tide of his WWs affair with his boss.

It sounds like your WS is a serial cheater and even Dr. Laura says they can't be fixed, to run for your life.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 8:11 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2024 | Registered: Jan 2012
gek9742000
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh! I am in the same boat. Ex is out doing stuff with OW that he never did with me. He was too busy complaining about how horrible I was and lazy I was and miserable I made him. I just wish I could skip past the next six months and be over this grief already.


BS 38 (me)
WS 39
1 son age 11
1 daughter age 5

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