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User Topic: I am perplexed
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I accepted a position lower level to get back in to the Corporate world and it should be easy but I have never been at this level and I am a challenged processor.

I don't know how to fix it. People just process I look at the higher level and can't just push things through and I am in my opinion failing


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sadcat
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a bit confused- you accepted a lower level position- but have never been at that level? Were you working in a different area?

From your post it seems like the day to day work is less strategic and more hands on. And you are more a strategy person?

I think you just soldier on, ask your supervisor for some feedback, tell them you really want to succeed and feel that their insight would help you.


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UnexpectedSong
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

People just process I look at the higher level and can't just push things through

I did not understand you. What higher level are you referring to? What things are you supposed to "push through"? What does "push through" mean?

Is it like you need to type up a document about how to order office supplies, but because it only has to do with one low-level topic and not the corporate vision that you are unable to complete it?


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I understand you, the others at your current level just 'do it'. You were previously at a higher management level and were more of a 'big picture' strategist. You are now over-thinking things and cannot seem to get your work done. Is this correct?

If so, you need to suppress the desire to manage things and get a better understanding your current position. Once you've got your job down pat, you can start looking around for ways to shine. Hopefully, there will be opportunities to move up in the company and reassert yourself in management. Good luck!


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you. Sad In AZ I think you are so correct- as always

I appreciate everyone's advice. The feedback is positive- I know I am bad at it. The position is very process oriented and I am getting hit right and left and before in my previous positions I was use to making decisions that would improve work flow. I need to chill out but I guess I am frustrated at how bad I am at a job that is not very difficult. I should be able to do this and I feel . In my head I tell myself I am not going to fail but I am worried. I need to find a way to change my attitude- I am upset with myself this was supposed to be a relaxed entry back into the Corporate world not feeling like a failure. I guess it reminds me in some ways of failing at my marriage because I didn't know he was unhappy. I never worried about any of my jobs before divorce.

[This message edited by fireproof at 11:40 PM, August 18th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is very hard to move from a position in management to a "peon". I chose to do that after X left because I could not handle the stress of management along with the stress of my personal life. The urge to get in an "fix things" is very hard to suppress, but it is what you have to do. Even if you know of a better way to do things, you need to ignore that and go along to get along.

The good news is that you recognize that you have an issue. That means that you can actively work to fix the issue(s). I also think you are being overly hard on yourself. You need ti give yourself time to learn the process (while suppressing the urge to fix what is broken ) and then give yourself time to perfect the process.

Be kind your yourself


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So shake him off
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First take a deep breath. Now just step back and relax. If this is a job where you are expected to just do it, and not think then try your very best to just do it for a while. Then you can really see ways to improve it, and be more productive, and shortly you will be moving on up.

I had this same issue when I became an Office Manager, and had been a hospital RN my whole career. I had to learn billing, and processing payments. These are jobs that took very specific steps, and even though the people that do it only have a short schooling, they understand it. I was very hard on myself with attempts to do it, and things I would get wrong. I'm a bit of a perfectionist, and of course wanted to be able to do it better than anyone. Well that's just stupid. My biller/coder had been doing that specific job for 10 years. You cant learn 10 years of experience in a few days or weeks. There are subtle nuiances that come with every job that are just part of it. Eventually, about 1.5 years in I was good at it. But I can guarantee that if I asked that biller/coder to schedule surgeries, room patients, or do anything other than what she was trained in she would struggle too.

I accepted that it would take time, and I would make some mistakes. Big deal, I would fix em, and life would go on. If you can take that approach, and be easier on yourself, it may be a lot easier to do the job well.

((((and strength))))


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You all are incredible! Thank you so so much I am going to try and see how tomorrow goes

I was thinking after this month I should be six grades lower. Thank you for understanding and your support. Thank you for the light at the end of the tunnel.


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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went from a management position in a field I know well to a business analyst position developing software for that field. It has been a HUGE learning curve but I'm getting there - I've doubted it at times though.


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