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User Topic: Where are the people like me?
byod02
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the heroine example is pretty accurate.

Also...the part about withdrawal making him miserable, hating me and going back to her...

I got a pretty good display of that when he took the kids out of town for 3 days and couldn't see his girlfriend. He came back miserable, angry and taking it out on me. :(


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movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well he needs to be told straight up that your kids will NOT be going anywhere with the girlfriend, that she is NOT to be around them so he had better get used to spending time with his kids without her!!!
Set him straight right off the bat and don't let him insert her into your kid's lives!
He needs to find ways to spend time with them, be a father to them, focus on them and leave her out of it all...


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

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womaninflux
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

one thing to keep in mind re: advice you get (here or IRL):

People have their own agendas.


BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"

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byod02
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have agreed this kids will not be around the girlfriend at this time. I trust that he'll stick to that.

And I really, really hope that she's out of the picture by the time the divorce is final and he thinks it's OK for the kids to meet her.

It makes me sick to think of her being around my children. She is gross.


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