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summerain
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does not matter if you are HR or not I just need opinions ASAP.
Have changed names

Eta: I am the one sending this email.

Good afternoon,
I would like to lodge an incident report about another student called Jacinta who is in my N****** class. I understand that Jacinta had enrolment problems and was not able to attend the pre-rehearsal meeting today for N********. I asked her if she would be okay with a couple of annotations (literally from "healthy heart workshop" to "***** healthy heart workshop.", twice in her speech), and that I was concerned that we would go under time as myself and another group member had timed the presentation and it went severely under.

She became extremely upset and I said that I would do it if she is too upset to do it (as I was aware of enrolment problems) and due to the fact she had clearly stated to the group that she did not want to do her part of the presentation on Monday the . As Lolta (my tutor) can attest to this fact that she did infact present her part today. She stated before the presentation that she would be lodging a "age discrimination complaint" and to "watch myself" as "it is quite easy to do", I believe this to be highly threatening behaviour as well as this being five minutes before our presentation has made me very distressed. I have assisted Jacinta a lot for this presentation for her speech as she stated she did not understand the concept of the presentation, I wrote the speech as she stated she did not want to do it.

However she has contributed to this group independently and collaboratively with other group members in a variety areas (suggestions for the take home booklet, PowerPoint, speech) so it is not as if she was discriminated at all (which I can provide screen shots of this if needed). As additional information, my mother was also a mature age student. As I have not received an apology from her, I believe it is necessary for me to put this in writing as a documented incidence. I would like to make it very clear that I am not lodging a complaint as I am under the assumption she is under duress, as she seems very upset about her enrolment, however I believe the way she has threatened me constitutes as bullying.

Thankyou for taking the time to read this,
Please ensure any replies are by email so I have a documented trail.

[This message edited by lauren123 at 11:46 PM, August 18th (Sunday)]


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A teacher. Not HR or otherwise savvy with procedure.

I would send a confirmation of receipt. Ask the student to keep you informed and that you will keep the current information on file. If at any time going forward the student wishes to add to the statement or file a complaint, to contact you (or whomever is appropriate to contact).

Offer mediation if such a program exists for the two students?


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summerain
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, August 18th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Care giver 90000:

Sorry haha I am the one sending the email I should of made that clear

Sorry I was really upset when I wrote this!

[This message edited by lauren123 at 11:36 PM, August 18th (Sunday)]


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:03 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It was a little difficult to follow since there are a number of females involved and you used "she" a lot.
Here's a rough edit:

Good afternoon,
I would like to file an incident report about another student, Jacinta LastName, who is in my N****** class. It is my understanding that Jacinta had enrollment problems and was not able to attend the pre-rehearsal meeting today for N********. I asked Jacinta if she would be okay with adding a couple of annotations (literally from "healthy heart workshop" to "***** healthy heart workshop.") twice in her speech. I also stated that I was concerned that we would go under time as another group member and I had timed the presentation and it was short by a good degree.

Jacinta became extremely upset, so I stated that I would do it (what is it??) if she is too upset to do it and due to the fact she clearly told the group that she did not want to do her part of the presentation on Monday, (insert date here). As my tutor, Lolta, can confirm, Jacinta (??) did present her part today. Before the presentation, Jacinta said she would be lodging an "age discrimination complaint" and to "watch myself" as "it is quite easy to do".
I believe this to be highly threatening behavior, and as this took place five minutes before our presentation, I was very distressed during my portion of the presentation.

I have assisted Jacinta with her speech a great deal for this presentation since she stated she did not understand the concept. In the end, I wrote the speech as Jacinta said she did not want to do it.

However, I want to note that Jacinta has contributed to the group both independently and collaboratively with other group members in a variety of areas. Her contributions include offering suggestions for the take home booklet, PowerPoint, and speech.
I do not believe that she was discriminated against. I can provide screen shots of (clarify what "this" is) if needed. I would like to mention that my mother was also a mature age student, so (insert why you mention this here).

As I have not received an apology from Jacinta, I believe it is necessary for me to document this incident. I would like to make it very clear that I am not lodging a complaint, but I believe the way she has threatened me constitutes as bullying and I wish to protect myself.

Thank you for your assistance. Please make any replies via email so I have a documented trail.

Also, you didn't specify in your original post what you need our opinions on.
Did you need opinions on the content of the email?
Did you need advice on how to handle "Jacinta"?
Please clarify so that we can try to help further.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 12:21 AM, August 19th (Monday)]


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Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


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summerain
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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, August 19th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thankyou! I can't believe this. There was never even a mention of age!!!


OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.

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